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writes:I had a boyfriend and I'm wondering if he has some personality problems. He always changes up a story from what really happen when we argue he doesn't like to take faults when they are his he can't talk about his feelings he runs away from his problems and never trys to stand on his feet and face them he's always angry sensitive to his feelings,never understanding, does things that don't make sense, get mad very very easily always picks the worst choice in any situation very stubborn and inpatient hard time being affectionate his parents aren't what you'd call parents like being there for him never helping him out or giving him affection and not teaching him how to treat a girl or how to be a Gentleman or how to be respectful or considerate and he doesn't care for anyones feeling but himself first. I really think he needs help but he says its me he doesn't wanna hear it or accept that it really is him....could he have a personality problem? Reply to this Question
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (22 July 2011):
 sounds like maybe he doesn't know how to love people (not been set a good example by his parents) he is not very good at showing affection to the baby and is disinterested coz the baby can't do anything for HIM. your boyfriend can TAKE from other people but GIVE nothing back. there is nothing the baby can GIVE him, so there is no benefit to be had from doing anything for the baby.
you said yourself - "doesn't care for anyones feeling but himself first" - you know him better than anyone
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2011): In the beginning it was great.like always lol through the relationship he changed his attitude just went beyond unbearable we argue every single time we go places every.single.time it's when I tell him how I feel and try to come to an agreement he never listens and it's all about him being the victim. When the baby came he just was there never took initiative to want to get up want to give him baths or love and affection for no reason its only when i need him to hold my baby to get the baby food . Can u believe that?he's just not normal and idk how he can treat a kid like that just not give him that fatherly love so it's the arguments and the baby it's just too much to not have help
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (21 July 2011):
has his personality always been like this or just since you broke up with him but are still having to deal with him coz you've got a child together?
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reader, S32811 +, writes (21 July 2011):
S32811 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe have 3 month old together :/ I left him but I feel he seriously needs counselling he even is unaffectionate with our child I've done all the work woke up gave him all his baths he fed him and changed him a couple times but that's it so I left him and I'm hoping I made the right choice
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (21 July 2011):
yeah he has got personality problem. whether or not he could be diagnosed with a personality disorder is another matter and one which only a psychologists assessment could provide the answer to (and even then some of these people are very good at escaping a diagnosis!)
but yes, a definite personality problem in that he has an 'attitude problem' he will not change, not for you anyway. you will get sick of him at some point and leave him, i'm sure. i hope this is before you have an unexpected pregnancy with him
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2011): well assuming that you are not contributing to his behavior (for example you say he runs away from problems and doesn't want to hear them, but is it because you are confrontational or emotional or blaming when you bring up problems?).if you're not doing anything wrong in your interactions with him then I would say that he has bad communication skills and doesn't know how to relate to people. I wouldn't go so far as to say it's a personality problem yet. It could be that he just has never had role models for how to handle conflicts productively so he's scared of them and refuses to face them. he can learn how to behave differently when in relationships, so that he doesn't drive people away and so he can feel more comfortable. he would learn by having people tell him what he's doing wrong (but in a way that's tailored to him so he doesn't shut down) and having people model more appropriate behaviors (like conflict resolution) for him.
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reader, Purple Pillow Power  +, writes (21 July 2011):
 I think its the way hes been brought up. You say the parents are mean and stuff? That's probably it. If a mosquito has a kid, its kids going to be a mosquito. That probably doesn't make sense but it will. If a mean people have a kid and bring it up like them, the kids going to be mean. Make more sense no? There may be a little anger-management there as well. HIH! :]
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