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writes:So, I've been dating a guy for about 3 months now. He's incredibly nice, sweet, caring and good looking, and he always makes sure to treat me right. He calls me up to check if I'm okay, buys me things even though I told him not to, and keeps trying his best to make me feel okay. Overall, he is really great.However. I've noticed that in a lot of things he says he tends to exaggerate a lot. His friends have told me that's part of him, and he always added a bit of exaggeration to some things. That didn't bother me much, until I started wondering whether he's a compulsive liar. He once told me that he used to be in a band in his high school, but his friends told me they hadn't heard of such thing. I asked him about it and he told me he was in there for only a little while and didn't make it public. Also, he told me that he "saved" an old man once while on the bus, and caught him before he fell. The way he explained how it happened seemed believable enough, but for some reason I couldn't get myself to actually believe it. I didn't ask him anything about it though.However, some of the things he's said and seemed quite hard to believe have appeared to be true. For example, he told me that they had offered him a modelling career but he declined. Sure, he's a really good looking guy, but for some reason I couldn't bring myself to believe it. But, a few days I was having dinner with him, his parents and his siblings and suddenly his mother said "My friend called me and gave me the phone number of this modelling agency. You could go to the casting on Friday. Have you changed your mind?" So my instict kind of prooved me wrong there.And, one other time he told me that there is a studio nearby his house and he sometimes goes there to play guitar. At first, I didn't believe it. But then he actually took me to it and I realized he wasn't lying.I really care about him, but I have some trust issues at the moment. How do I figure out whether he's lying about some facts, and how do I try to talk to him about it? I mean, I couldn't go to him and be all like "Hey, I think you might be exaggerating and lying about some things". I want to work this out somehow...Help please?
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reader, FleexNicanor  +, writes (6 December 2009):
mmm let me understand this
first of all im 14 so i dont kno somethings...
as i understand his lies arent quiet big lies like to break up with him. BUT HE IS LYING!. He wants to have this big impression on you, like when he says he saved an old person in the bus. He is obviously not superman that no1 can believe it. If i were you i wouldnt hear so much from their friends cause they can manipulate the information cause they are jelous maybe...
i have this friend also who does the same as ur bf. she does it show off and be popular and all does stuff. I c her and i want to puke...
My advice
talk to him
ask him why he exaggerates somethings he says
just talk to him dont preasure him
like a normal conversation.
Wish ya the best!
Flor
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