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writes:To make a long story short (or try to) I've known "Will" for maybe six or seven months, he lives five hours away, owns a business and is always busy. We communicated via phone for the first few months after meeting by chance and then, I went to see him. I saw him again a few weeks ago. I was planning on giving up on him. He's a nice guy, hardworking, honest, adorable and very considerate but hes my mom's age, his mother hates me because I'm black/latin and thinks I'm out to get his money. I never told him of these thoughts. But, he touches my heart, hes not the emotional type but his voice cracked when on the phone he said, "you're the sweetest girl I've ever known, it hurts to miss you." aaargh! I feel it could work, we could love, but what about these obstacles? Would they kill us? My mom doesn't know a lot about him either and I know she'd worry if she did. Am I crazy for even thinking about being with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): If he's old enough to be your mom's boyfriend, and he lives 5 hours away, I wouldn't continue things with him. He can woo you all he wants, but it's creepy and he knows he's being a creeper by trying to suck someone your age in to be in a relationship with him.
Your mom, even if she's bs'ing with the gold digger comment, knows there's something wrong with this picture, even if you may refuse to admit it. At your age, the more someone tells you it's wrong, the more you'll most likely continue things. For that reason, I'm hoping if I tell you "go ahead", maybe you'll do the opposite and let this guy go after someone else your own age. I'm hoping you do, too.
When something doesn't feel right, your mom will most likely pick up on it first, which is why she'll be against it no matter what. That's a great thing, because moms usually have that gut feeling which naturally kicks in to protect children when there's something bad about to happen. I'd listen to your mom's gut feeling, not your own, on this one.
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reader, SapphireBerry  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 Don't worry i like a guy 32 years older than me.Well technically he's my idol and my inspiration.If you love each other then you can't let anythingget in the way of it. Age shouldn't matter and youshould prove to his mother you're not after his money.You don't need to work hard to please his mother butyou can just show her over time how much you care forhim. I hope to god it works out for you because I wantto have luck like that too when I meet my idol. Also tell your mother when you think it's the righttime. It can work just make time for each other as well.He sounds great for youSapphire x
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reader, almc  +, writes (21 July 2010):
Age is just a number, and you both need to be happy so don't let anyone else tell you different, and the whole color thing, he doesn't care what you are so his mom will have to get use to you, because that's who you are and you can't change that. So hey I say you only live ones and things could go great :) best of luck. Let me know how things go.
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