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writes:I was out last night with my boyfriend, and I knew that his ex girlfriend was hassling him by sending texts and calling him a lot.She sent him one last night whilst I was there and I happened to read it. He'd previously sent her a text telling her to leave him alone and that he's happy with me and she replied with someone along the lines of 'We've been sleeping together how can you say that you're happy with her?'As soon as I read it I became upset. From the beginning he's always told me how much he hates cheating and convinced me she was lying and saying that just to get a reaction from me.I know that she's been trying to get him back since they broke up, which was around 5 months ago. So that makes sense to be honest, but all I can think about is what if he did sleep with her?I really like him and everything but I don't know what to believe.
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (18 October 2008):
 This is a hard one to call as who knows if this could be true or not.
Does he have the opportunity of being with her when he is not seeing you or do you see him every day?
Has he acted at all suspiciously lately?
I think that knowing your boyfriend and asking him face to face and seeing his reaction is the only way you will know in your own mind.
If his ex is trying to steal him back then going to her direct could end up with you hearing lies so who knows, maybe try and find out if there is anyone you know who also knows her and see if you can do some digging i.e. find out what she is saying to her friends. If it is that she is trying to win him back no matter what then you have your answer.
However, if you find out that they have actually been seeing one another then you may need to get your friends to watch him, ones that he doesn't know so that you can find out for sure one way or another.
If you are sleeping with him, protect yourself with using condoms as if he is sleeping around you need to protect yourself from getting anything you don't want i.e. a sexually transmitted disease.
Just be careful, this could all be vindictiveness but on the other hand it could be true.
Wait it out and don't jump to any conclusions yet, get proof if you are uncertain in any way. You wouldn't be asking the question on this site if you weren't 50/50 with this.
Just don't accuse an innocent guy unless you know for sure one way or the other as you don't want to play into her hands if she is just trying to stir it for you both.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): Trust your intuition! If you keep feeling that something is out of place, then there probably is. If a second incident takes place you should probably tell your boyfriend that you will only see him again once he has gotten rid of his ex for good (no calls or text messages).
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