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writes:I met today with the guy I asked the question about sending the Happy Thanksgiving text. I really liked him, but it seem like he didn't like me. I am very shy and I wasn’t able to maintain the conversation interesting. So, my bad! I know I screw it big time, and I know there is no way to go back on time and do better, but I’d love to hear if there is anything I can do to have another chance with him. After our meeting he hugged and say that it was very nice to meet me, but did not say anything about seen each other again. When I got home, I sent him a text saying, “It was very nice to meet you. Hope to see you again.” He replied to my text immediately saying “Nice to meet you too.” But, he did not say if he would like to see me again. Later on, he was online at the dating site. Should I lose my hope and let him go? I truly like him, from the moment I saw him walking up to me and smiling, my heart started to pound so fast. I have met a few guys through this online site, and I never felt that before, I didn’t even feel as nerves as I did with him. Any advice, would be greatly appreciated!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (2 December 2013):
 Sadly he's not that into you.
think about it when a guy YOU don't like, likes you more than you do... he seems a bit of a nuisance trying to get you to go out doesn't he?
let this one go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2013): You're letting desperation and loneliness get the better of you. You're over-appreciative of his response. He's not interested in seeing you again. There was no spark for him.
Trying again will make no difference. You'll only try too hard to make an impression. You have to have patience.
It takes time to find the right chemistry. If you're awkward on dates, read up on it. You have to be at ease, to put other people at ease. There's nothing wrong with being a good listener; but you have to follow the conversation. Pay attention and stop swooning. You're too anxious to find a man.
If the spark isn't there, it isn't there. When the right guy comes along, conversation just comes naturally. There will be other opportunities. Let this one fizzle out.
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reader, Mafe +, writes (1 December 2013):
Mafe is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you for your prompt response, janniepeg. I know I should not chase him, and I probably won't; I am not like that. It is just that I have met with other guys from this dating site, and he is the only one that has inspired me such excitement at first sight. I just want to know if the fact that he did reply to my text about nice to meet him, could mean that he might still interested,but just not sure?
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (1 December 2013):
I think you gotta let this one go. He didn't reciprocate on wanting to see you again, just that it was nice meeting you too. At least he's polite and isn't trying to be rude.
Maybe you two just don't have that much in common, which is why the conversation didn't flow. Dating online is just hard in general. Sometimes you go on a date and it was great, the guy even says it was great, he'll call you in the next few days and you still don't hear from him. It sucks, but it happens.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (1 December 2013):
 I don't see shyness as a weakness. When the conversation doesn't flow, it doesn't mean you screwed up. It could be that you two can't find a common topic that excites you both. At the dinner table things can get awkward when there is silence or only one person is doing the talking. You don't have to be hard on yourself. What you had was one sided chemistry and you body symptoms such as heart pounding are not indicators that the guy is the one for you. Never chase after a guy who doesn't seem to like you. Give other people a chance and keep yourself lighthearted because dates should be fun.
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