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anonymous
writes: Could I be pregnant or am I being stupidI AM NOT ON THE PILL OF ANY FORM OF CONTRACEPTIONI am normally a very sensible person but I was out on friday night and my best friend got me very very drunk, I was dancing with this really nice guy and before I left he pulled me into the ladies toilet for a kiss. I have never done this sort of thing before and never will again (I am a virgin) things started to get heated between us and before I knew it he had my unbuttoned my trousers and started fingering me, I told him to stop, which he eventually done but we were still kissing and then I fel him penis on the outside of my underwear (trousers were still down at this point), I pushed him away, he saif he wanted to come on my underwear he didn't want sex, anyway like I said I pulled away, he ended up coming on his own but I am not sure if he did come a little on me before I felt him because I was so tipsy and because we were kissing I was a bit distracted as to what he was doing, I know he didn't enter me but I was a little wet down below but that could have been me, I have never been fingered before and now I am worried I could be pregnant.It is three weeks until my next period, I am so worried, I can't even take the morning after pill because it was on Friday.Am I being silly. I am 19 and like I said a virgin with no expereince or knowledge and this totally out of characted for me, I don't have a nuber to ask him.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (5 May 2010):
Actually clothing offers no protection against pregnancy since there are holes in them thanks to the weave of the material.
They are quite porous to those sperms which can penetrate those panties if they are wet.The seminal fluid in which the sperm is carried can seep through thin clothing.
It depends on the amount, force of ejaculation and the material that the clothes are made of.
Also ejaculating on the vuvla(outside area of the vagina can put one at risk for pregnancy.
Sperm can survive many hours outside either body. Clothing is only meant as protection for the body and not against pregnancy.
If you are going to continue with the dry humping then you should both stay completely clothed because underwear alone wont offer much protection.
While sperm can travel through clothes, the risk of falling pregnant must be close to 0.
It is very unlikely you can be pregnant but there is still the risk or a chance of getting pregnant.You cannot rule out completely.
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reader, ChristineAvril +, writes (5 May 2010):
"therple", along with "kc" and many others on this site, we know that sperm cannot penetrate underwear, so if her knickers were still in place, she is safe - this time!
The OP needs to be more careful in future, though, but with all of the admonitions here she should be aware of that.....
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reader, ffogalilly +, writes (4 May 2010):
I would get on the pill, but no you cannot get pregnant that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): I am a little baffled by the folks who state with certainty that you won't get pregnant by this, especially ones who are concerned about STIs. Do 20 somethings really not have the facts of life yet?
It is considerably less likely, but you can get pregnant with no insertion if the swimmers are able to make contact with your vaginal opening. I cannot quite understand how other folks are decisively concluding that the wet was you... Likely no need to freak out as yet, but like the rest of us who have done something dumb (been there done that more times than I care to recall), nothing for it but to wait for your cycle. Or lack thereof.
A couple of things.... Get over to planned parenthood or their website. Virgin or no, get the biological FACTS about your body and reproduction.
Also, please consider this a wake up call. You may not feel it right now, but that man could have done a lot worse. Trust me when I tell you that date rape is no fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): Wow, that would suck... It's possible but not probable, think before you get tht drunk next time!
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reader, ChristineAvril +, writes (4 May 2010):
You are safe from pregnancy, almost certainly, but what about STDs? If you can't or won't go on the pill, at least always carry condoms with you - it doesn't make you "easy", just prepared!
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reader, Honeygirl +, writes (4 May 2010):
Hun, I think it is fairly safe to say that you wont fall pregnant... however..... please, please, think very carefully about your behaviour. You got off lightly and the guy listened to you when you asked him to stop... what if he hadnt listened?
The consequences far outweigh the thrill of the moment. So please be careful, the numbers of girls who have been assaulted and or raped in toilets at parties/nightclubs etc is overwhelming.
Look on this experience as a lesson and look after yourself in future.
Honeygirl
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (4 May 2010):
No you wont be pregnant from this - sperm cannot make their way to your vagina through clothing. The chances are if you felt "wet" down below that was all you, when you are sexually aroused your vagina lubricates itself hence why you feel "wet".
You really should know that when a guy pulls you into the toilets, there is no way on earth he just wants a "kiss". You can kiss on the dancefloor! If he took you into the toilet his intention was sex, or some other form of sexual activity. So next time a guy tries to take you into the toilet, say no!
And if you are thinking of becoming sexually active or dont trust yourself when drinking then maybe it is time to go on some form of birth control. It is completely free and all you have to do is go to your doctors and discuss which form is best for you. That way at least you know even if you get drunk and cant control these sorts of things you are protected. Either that or just learn not to drink so much!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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