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writes:my boyfriend and I have been together for 3years now, and things have been great. clearly there have been ups and downs, but it's generally good.Recently tiny things have been getting to me, and make me so annoyed at him. I always tell him when i'm annoyed/upset/happy, so he knows the deal. but i just dont know what to think anymore. Do u think it could be possible that i'm falling out of love? this concept scares me a little... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks. I think its probably the "comfortable" stage. It's too hard to let go of some1 i care so much about, so i guess ill just have to try and work thru my annoyances.
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reader, PeanutButter  +, writes (25 January 2010):
 You know, I don't think that falling out of love really ever happens, I think it is more of a case of the love changes or we get "comfortable".
When people are together for that long a period of time, they get to know one another on every level and the little things that attracted you to them initially, ultimately can be the things that drive you man, because they are the main elements which you see of that person. Anyone experiencing several years of the same anything would get fed up with it a little.
Best thing you could do is not to dwell on it. Just inject some new life into your relationship, try new things, get the fun flowing again.
Often people don't realize what they have until it is gone, and so are too often quick to think the love has split or that it is over....not necessarily so, and I hope not for you too!
I wish you all the luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys.
We dont see each other every day, just once durin the week and at weekends.
I've tried to look past it a lot, but sometimes i just feel like its a waste of time. I do care about him a LOT, mayb il give it another try
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you. I understand where you're coming from.
But we do talk about our problems a lot. i suppose whether they're sorted or not is another question...
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 January 2010):
Maybe the problem is that he's not dealing with the problems, so they don't go away. I think maybe you really need to sit down and think about what you want for your own life, then make a decision about what you want to do. It could just be that problems you have aren't being solved. Or it could be that you are indeed falling out of love. But it can be fixed if you think about what it really is that's getting to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2010): Maybe you simply spend too much time together and the tiny things that get to you are just things he's always done but you now notice.
You may be changing you opinions and maturing and suddenly find yourself on a different level of thought to him, this may make you feel out of love because you've grown and he hasn't. This might be the sign that the relationship is coming to its natural end.
Why not try finding a new interest each and then when you meet up you'll have new things to talk to each other about and might find that you no longer pick up on all the little things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2010): been there with my past girl friend of 4 years, and im there now with my current of 10 months. I am the one who started to get annoyed with little things, things i used to love like her singing in the car, dancing to stupid songs, now do nothing but really get to me. its who she was, its who i fell in love with, so maybe its me?...
I've had to step back and just kinda look at the whole situation. i asked myself, realllyy?? your going to get mad over that?- just let it go. as hard as it is to not let it get to you, if you are truly happy with them, just tell yourself to let it go, and try real hard to embrace it once again. it a hard thing to do. but i assure you its worked for me before (we broke up for other reasons). i beg you please just look past it and tell yourself its not a big deal. try it for a few days.
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