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*edric c
writes:helloim 33 and i am married to a muslim guy. we married after knowing him only 3 months or so. we married islamically.i think he is using me but his actions say otherwise. we argue a lot and he says he is in love with me , i would love a baby ad i know he would be a good fatheras he treats my son fro a previous relationship well. i have this niggly feeling he is using me or he isnt as in love with me as i would like. im kinda more sure he isnt using me than he is i feel insecure i know i sound confused
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reader, cedric c +, writes (27 January 2008):
cedric c is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou so much for taking the time and effort to write your replies
update he was using me he came back from pakistan and told me he wasnt in love with me and begged me to let him leave
i packed his stuuf whilst he was out unbeknown to him and im now happier!!
single life again for me
ahh well its not so bad so far...... haha
thanx again xxxxx
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reader, speedcat  +, writes (20 January 2008):
You seem very confused, do you have any hard evidence that hes using you? you state he treats your son well, which is a very positive thing. Does he cheat on you? different cultures make people act different than what you might be use to. sit down and tell him how you feel.
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reader, mistertoshwell +, writes (20 January 2008):
Do you think he married you for a passport or something? What has his religion got to do with things?
Do you love the guy?
Is he younger than you?
Muslim marriages in the middle east can be very very different from what is expected in the"west"from a marriage . You probably need to sit down and talk about expectations from each other and you may find that it clears the air and you understand each other more clearly - good luck.
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reader, Moonbeam Spectra +, writes (20 January 2008):
Trust your instincts I must say, what's pointing out to you that he is using you? How does he show his love? Buying you things, doing things for you and protecting you? Or is it the eye contacts, love making and watch you while you leave for work? There's true love and there is false love, there are topics that can help you distinguish.
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reader, Caylen  +, writes (20 January 2008):
well hun i dont think he is using u. i just think your brain is telling you that. but follow your heart and do whats best for you. if he didn't love you then he wouldent have married you.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (20 January 2008):
 You say his actions showed that he loved you . What more can you asked from him? Do you want a contract written and signed by him ?
Is it because he is allowed to marry 4 wives , that you feel insecure?
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