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writes: A MAN's ANSWER woudl be great here. Thanks. Last summer I had an emotional affair with a guy from work and I worked through it while on break from the job. I have returned and in seeing eachother there is no doubt that we missed eachother as we hugged in sincerety, shared food and good conversation. Within one conversation he brought up his wife, and I learned that his wife was having difficulty with a few issues that I actually have experience in. I found myself sincerely expressing my knowledge to him on her subject matter and then offered to bring into work, the tools I have that she would need to benefit her situation, for her to try. He called her, she agreed to try them. (I guess, given what attraction happened between us and what verbal expressions that happened between he and I about how we felt about eachother; which gave me such a hard time to work through on break; I surprised myself in this enexpected scenerio.I offered to help his wife! A female friend I shared the days detail with told me he would likely end up liking me even more because of my helping his wife out with her issues. Obviously, my question is to ask a man's point of view? Could this actually alter his view of 'us' or make me more appealing to him, as my friend indicated? Any other possibilities for comment. Just curious for food for thought.He seemed a little 'marveled' maybe, just as I was, yet, I do like helping people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh, and P.S.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe intent of MINE was not to get closer to him, but to find out if what my friend's comment could be true in general. MY INTENSIONS are sincere, apparently not made clear enoough by your responses; causing you immediately to think stereotype proven by your mismatched reponses. Perhaps I should have left the "background" out of it and asked the question generally. Nevertheless, he will likely like me more, which is not my 'goal'! You've all proven you missed the point! Thanks anyway!
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reader, gumbbo  +, writes (18 February 2009):
From a mans opinion. If I was that man and found out you were only helping my wife to get to me I would think you were a scheming bitch - sorry but i would. How could you look that woman in the eye knowing what your agenda really is? You should be ashamed of yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): YOU want a guys opinion? well heres one, i think your pathetic for even thinking that. you WANT him to like you more for helping his wife, thats why u helped her. your not his wife, your not his girlfriend, and you should seriously stop what your doing. its wrong. not to mention insenstive. your a woman, so put yourself in the wifes shoes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): you're not his wife.you shouldn't have an affair like this.offering to help his wife only makes you the "other woman".if you were married to him, how would you feel if you found this out?
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