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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:hi all! im 35 years old and my boyfriend is 43 hes been single for a few years now and was just enjoying dating women. i have children from a previous partner he hasnt got any. we've only been together nine months and in this time it took months for him to decide to commit to me as in boyfriend/girlfriend, because of this i am feeling insecure as im still not sure if he is comitted we only see each other a couple of times a week and hes not one to use much contact between dates, and as much as he says he fancys me there doesnt seem to be much affection he doesnt hold my hand or put his arm around me when were out or tell me hes missed me or cant wait to see me what i want to know is he just not into me or afraid of commitment? do you think he could fall for me in time or is there no hope? should i move on? any comments would be much appreciated thankyou
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): It sounds like he hasn't emotionally committed to you. All of the speculation and worry can quickly turn you insane - I know! I've gotten some helpful advice on this issue:
Change your mental state to not depend on any man for stability. Live your life, love yourself, love people who love you and grow inside. Don't waste your precious time on Earth worrying about this guy's inner workings. If you can take the pressure off of yourself to figure out what he's thinking and just enjoy BEING with him, your emotional energy and maturity will radiate to him in a positive way. That kind of positive experience when he's around you can inspire him to commit to you because he loves the way he feels when he's with you. And bonus, you get to focus on you for a change, while you're simultaneously working on your relationship!
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