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writes: Hi there,This is a really silly problem but i cant get it out of my head. My boyfriend has just spent a weekend in New York with his best friend, who is single. I asked him whether his friend scored any women at all and he said yes, he did one night but it was just a snog. I KNOW this is ridiculous, but what was my boyfriend doing while he was snogging some woman? He must have been flirting around with her mates, right?? and maybe even snogging them himself. I know this sounds unreasonable, but I hate the thought of him flirting around with pretty women, when he could basically have done anything and i would never know.ANy advice much appreciated, thanks.
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reader, joeymac +, writes (12 September 2006):
it doesn't sound unreasonable iv felt like that, my ex had the most slimiest mates of all, but u have to see it as, his mate is single - so he can do that stuff, whereas ur bf is with u - so probably won't even want to. he was probably sat on his own having a drink waiting for his friend to come ack or something. why would he have the urge to just kiss someone he doesnt know when he loves u? there are good men out there they aren't all creeps xx
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (12 September 2006):
 TRUST. Until you have reason not to. You're worrying yourself over unknowns and you are only hurting yourself. Every man doesn't cheat or gets some just because he can. Some of us actually have enough gall to love who we are with. Forget it and live until there is a reason not to. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2006): No one can tell you if your bf flirted, cheated or whatever...while he was visiting his friend in New York, dear. Only you know your bf's personality and whether he is capable of cheating. For you to ask him "whether his friend scored any women at all" and then assuming 'maybe..perhaps' he flirted /cheated tells me, you are a girl who has big trust problems. This is a fear that could inevitably destroy your relationship. Therefore I suggest, you either forget this and move ahead into the future with this guy and stop worrying or you get out of the relationship. Because having trust issues like you have is a huge burden on your mind, that no healthy relationship will carry for very long. You are making the same error that many people make in a relationship..and that is you are operating from fear. So many of us get into that rut of believing we are not good enough and we are not lovable or worthy. We also carry that fear of being hurt or rejected. Remember, fear is a killer of relationships and it's not a happy, healthy place to be..
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reader, uonlyliveonce  +, writes (12 September 2006):
 i think your insecure maybe he wasnt there at the time maybe his friend just told him what happened.
you said you dont like him flirting with pretty woman - why dont you think your pretty? obviously your bf does or he wouldnt be with you.
men find confidence sexy so trust him dont bring yourself down and stop reading into things so much
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reader, Helen1986 +, writes (12 September 2006):
 Basically hunny you will never know, so you have to get thi thought out of your head. If he loves you I doubt he would cheat on you. I suggest you just trust him until you find out otherwise.
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