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writes:hi dearcupid,i'm having a hard time coping with my long-distance boyfriend when he goes off to uni next month. i love him as whole. of course, you have to make the effort but, i still want to keep the relationship strong. i trust him and he trusts me though that thought i've heard that uni was about sex and drinking i kinda felt sick..is that even true?if anyone here has experienced (no or yes) a loved one where she/he had to go somewhere more distance away from you it will be great help. thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): My boyfriends leaving now in september also to go to uni..
he reckons everythng will be okay?,... but a clse friend of mine.. male.. brought up uni and said about how its the most madest time of your life and of crse youd wana be single
I feel bad, i dont wana be the reason for him not gtn the full extent of uni, but he dsnt wnt it to end and neither do i even more so..
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reader, sarah_s +, writes (27 August 2008):
sarah_s is verified as being by the original poster of the question Sorry for the late replies and I appreciate both of your wonderful advices. I'm sorry it didn't work out for you 'anonymous' :( but, I wish you the best in the future.! PyjamaLama thank-you for encouragement. It's true what you said.
Thank-you both an' tc.3.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2008): Personally for me, long distance relationships have not gone well for me. To ME, alright, i'm not saying this applies to you, I don't want to be discouraging, but for me it never has. I used to have a girlfriend whom I dated for 3 years, she would leave for 2 months at a time because she had family in another country, this was in the summer time when we were off university, and the chance that she goes overseas and doesn't meet somebody that interests them is unlikely, especially when you're that young, but it all depends on the person. If you feel the strength of your relationship is strong enough, then you can still do it. For me, i'd never do it again, it was a lot of pain, and if someone told me they'd be leaving for months at a time (and in your case, i'm not sure how long), i'd just say no. it's nobody's fault, it just didn't work out for me.
I hope it works better for you. And yes, if you trust each other enough, you can work through it. It will be tough though. Remember to live your lives, to grow up as a person while he's away, he's doing the same, and see how it goes. Take it slow. Good luck.
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reader, PyjamaLama +, writes (23 August 2008):
Tough situation hun!
If you love and trust your bf like u say u do, and he feels the same way back, then there should be no problem. I no ull probs both b reli busy and i dnt no how far away his uni is, but there's always weekends and holidays.
Distance makes the heart grow fonder...cliche, but true!
If it works out and u pull through this one, then great! Just don't become an over protective gf and ring him 24/7, if he tells u he loves and trusts you, u should love and trust him too.
It's not all about that in Uni, unless you're a whore obviously! Don't get me wrong, there are parties, just because u work so hard, u need a party, but he'll just b having fun, so don't let it stop u having fun! But you'll have even more fun when you're reunited. =)
Stay positive, and don't let anyone come between you!
Hope this helped =)
xxx
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