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writes:hi everyone, well my boyfriend and i already lost our virginity to eachother, i have heard from friends that girls arent the only ones who go thru the pain at that process... my boyfriend didnt go thru any pain but i did ALOT!!! i think the only pain he was going thru was the one i was giving him bitting his lip[lol] but i am really inberesed to ask him to tell me the truth about him bein a virgin. you guys think that he lied to me about being a virgin??? help please and tanxx for any advice will be good!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): For those who bashed this individual for asking a question after having sex at such a young age you shouldn't have. That you had no right in doing.But when I was a non virgin had sex with a virgin male he said that it hurt him for a while then the pain subsided.So I guess it depends on the male himself.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 Oh geez god. What ever happened to sex education?
Men don't feel pain during sex.
Well not unless the penis is bend double or something.
You REALLY need to talk to someone about everything you think you know about sex because I get the feeling you know nothing.
Let me guess. You can't become pregnant the first time? STD's only happen to gay people? Pull out method is reliable form of birth control?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): PS: It hurt a lot, I bet it did. This is because you and your boyfriend are too young and stupid, and that's why you felt such pain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): You present as aged 13-15 (underage) and currently living in the USA.
"I have heard from friends that girls arent the only ones who go thru the pain at that process"
You are very ignorant, but you thought you was ready for sex. Are you as ignorant about the dangers too. Your very, very young and you have no idea what you are doing. You want to play adult games and they you ask stupid questions like "why didn't he hurt too". I bet it was your stupid young friends who told you to have sex, and you followed their advice. Your friends are probably as idiotic and stupid as you. They know how to lay on their backs and have sex, but they don't know how to pick up a book and find out what their having sex for.
Ah well, now your not a virgin and now you know it hurts. You don't bother to read, you'd rather find out things through experience. Well this is what you choose to do. I'd suggest that you get advice from an adult and find out how to make sex comfortable and safe. But I'll doubt you'll do that. You prefer to practice blindly and let experience be your guide. You'll probably go back to your friends and follow more of their stupid advice. You my dear are an idiot, you had sex and I bet you don't even know why.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 July 2008):
 Hi, I think that you are concerned that he wasn't a virgin when you two first had intercourse?
"i have heard from friends that girls arent the only ones who go thru the pain at that process"
Um, I really don't think that men/boys experience much pain on their first sexual experience with a female partner. I think Daniel has a good point here.
As far as him being a virgin, you're just going to have to trust him on this one. Either he is or he isn't, but hon, you're not going to be able to tell from your encounters with him.
I think that one should be able to discuss one's fantasies and share one anther's interests outside the befroom....
Good luck at finding out what you need and deserve....
xxx
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 First time sex doesn't hurt for a man. You can't expect "pain" to be an indication of virginity.
Why is it important for you whether he was a virgin or not? Not that I'm criticizing you, and you don't have to say if you don't want to. I just want you to think about it.
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reader, saltwater  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 Hey...
Men typically don't feel pain during sex; first time or otherwise.
However, women usually suffer pain during (and after) their first sexual encounter and seen as you were a virgin it is no surprise that you felt pain.
Whether your boyfriend was a virgin or not prior to having sex with you is something I obviously can't tell you, but just because he didn't feel pain doesn't mean that he had already lost his virginity. x x
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