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anonymous
writes:I have been having sex regularly with my boyfriend over Summer break. Normally, he will pull out and go over my stomach or on the sheets below me.The last few weeks he has started to push deeper before pulling out but still leaving a mess on my stomach or sheets, however a reduced amount.I was worried he was going inside of me and I asked him about it and he got upset and left. A few days later he apologized and said he wasn't and left because he was embarrassed. We had sex again and he didn't push deep before pulling out and left a good size mess on my sheets.Could be have been going inside me and still leave some outside? I'm worried and don't know how to react to him. Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 August 2021):
 OP, I hope you have done the test.
We all know it's scary for you.
Is there an adult you can confide in? Who can be there when you tell your parents?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2021): Oh, sweetheart! Take the pregnancy test, and please let us know how it turns-out. We uncles and aunts will help you through it. Especially the aunts, who's female point of view will be most beneficial and comforting to you.
If this is only a scare, or false-alarm; from now on, insist on using condoms. You may not only get pregnant; but you stand the chance of catching an STD. You don't know who else your boyfriend is having sex with; and if he's not using condoms he can transfer chlamydia, yeast infections, or worse. He's not going to tell you if he's cheating with another girl. You cannot be reckless with your body.
You know how babies are made, and you should know "pull-out" is not how you avoid pregnancy. If you didn't know better than that, you aren't ready to be having sex; because you don't know how to protect yourself, or avoid getting pregnant. I'm not being judgy; it's what your parents, and any concerned-parent would tell their daughter for her safety.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2021): Maybe by now you have sorted things out.
No-one should be afraid to take a pregnancy test as it is not painful.
If the results come back positive you should make an appointment to see a doctor.
You have embarked on a crash course into adulthood and I suspect that you are not feeling ready to talk to your parents. This can be difficult.
You just have to think of the bigger picture.
You are not going to be talking about a planned pregnancy!
I think you may need to say that you were experimenting with sex
And may have got pregnant.
That's where a teenage advice centre can help out.
They can help you to understand how you feel about an unexpected pregnancy and discuss with you if you are ready to be a parent.
If the answer is no then they will encourage you to book an appointment to have an abortion.
That's all.
As a young girl of 15 yrs I expect you to not be ready to be a parent with your boyfriend.
At this stage you are talking about a missed period and not a baby.
The doctors can bring about your period by making sure that the group of cells leave your body before it develops into anything.
I am not pro abortion but I am also not pro youngsters having a baby before they themselves have even reached maturity!
You have to act fast though because you cannot put it off..
Contact your doctor for an appointment and if the receptionist asks what it's about you can say that it is a private matter.
You don't have to tell them why.
You only need to tell the doctor!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 August 2021):
Take the test. Just DO it.
If your last period was July 4th? Then yes, it could just be late (when people are stressed it can mess with the period, but you know what can also be the reason.)
NOT taking the test doesn't mean you aren't pregnant. All it means is that you don't know. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to talk to your parents and BF - regardless of the test result.
You are 15, so still, a child (sorry) but sex is really not for kids. I'm sure you have heard of condoms. I am sure your BF has heard of them, yet... you two decided to have unprotected sex?
Hop to it. Take the test so you KNOW. The next step is talking to your parents. AND your BF. You can't bury your head in the sand, OP. You can't pretend it isn't a possibility. Otherwise, why did you buy a test?
It sucks to be 15 and having to take responsibility for your actions, especially when they are this big. But you kind of HAVE to. No one else can do it for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2021): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm 15. My bf is 16, 17 next month for those wondering. I'm afraid now. I got a pregnancy test but I don't want to take it. I don't know what he'd say or what my parents will do. I am afraid I already know the answer. My last period was right before 4th of July. Though it had been late before. I'm not sure what to do if I am
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2021): If you are being sexually abused by an older person or an adult you can report this to the police and they will arrest the adult and help you get to a safer place.It's not your fault, no matter how old you look or how pretty you are or how developed you look.You are underage and you don't need sex.You don't need his mess on your body or on your sheets.You also don't need the experience of sex.Mention to this person that you don't want it and go to the police and report rape and or assault if he persists.It seems mindblowing to adults that youngsters don't have any idea of their rights.Did you and this person decide to get you pregnant this summer? Is there any particular reason why you are having sex this summer?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2021): You are under the age of consent so no one should be having sex with you.It is illegal especially if this person is an adult or older than you.What right does this person have to engage in sexual activity with you?You are not a toy or object , you are a young female who has still not fully developed.He could just jack himself off if he wants an orgasm.Talk to your doctor about your sexual health and stop worrying about what he wants to do.Do you fear trouble if you refuse to have sex?Then you are in a coercive relationship.Again your doctor could help.Do you worry about pregnancy and sexual diseases?You should!Do you feel you have to have sex because other youngsters are having it?Many youngsters vastly exaggerate the amount of sexual contact they have.I think you need to talk to a teenage advice agency so that you can get some moral support or the necessary sex tests.Sex leads to pregnancy especially if this idiot is pulling out of you to leave sperm on your belly.Of course sperm are left in your vagina and you will most certainly get pregnant.Talk to your doctor about going on the pill if you are hell bent on allowing this person to use you like this.I sense that you are not happy so I know something is wrong.You can seek help by seeing a doctor or a nurse.They understand that these things happen.And they can prevent it if necessary by encouraging you to refuse to have sex or by preventing pregnancy.You don't have to jeopardize your mental or physical health by allowing yourself to be put in a dangerous situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2021): I let an old BF go bareback just before my period. It felt better. He was suppose to pull out. he'd leave a thimble full on my belly. I knew from Bjs there should have been 10x that. In the heat of the moment I raped my young athletic legs around him. So we're both to blame. We dodged that bullet.
Make him wear a condom or get birth control (best option)
There IS an Old joke: What do you couples who use the pull out method birth control? PARENTS
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2021): Make sure you are protected. Use condoms and preferably also a second method of birth control. You risk getting pregnant or an STD.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 August 2021):
1. you all better be using birth control AND a condom!
You DO know that SEX is how babies are made, right?
"The precum fluid itself does not contain sperm, but sperm can leak into it as it travels down the urethra, where residuals may be present from previous ejaculations, and can be released with precum prior to semen."
Which means, HE can knock you up.
So what is the plan for when you get pregnant? Have you two even thought of that?
If you are 13-15 maybe you two need to have a talk with your parents. Because it's irresponsible of the two of you to have unprotected sex. The PULL OUT method can work, for people who KNOW what they are doing. Seems to me, you two do not.
It doesn't matter HOW deep he is - if he is INSIDE you when he starts to ejaculate - there is a chance of sperm in your vagina which again equals a chance of you getting pregnant.
I get that you two are horny and enjoy the sex, but it CAN have consequences. One of those is pregnancy.
Be smarter OP.
If you can HAVE sex, you can TALK to your parents about getting on birth control ASAP and you CAN tell your BF to wear a condom EVERY TIME. USE both until the day when you are older and ready to start a family.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (12 August 2021):
 You are potentially 13 years old and to young to be doing such things.
Surely at you age you have some form of basic education as to what can happen if you do things like this.
He should of worn protection. By not doing so you now run the risk of being pregnant, or any other things related to unprotected intercourse.
You need to speak to your parents, or a trustworthy adult and tell them what has happened and go and get checked out at your local GP.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2021): Of course he could. And the quantity would not matter, the tiniest little droplet would contain more than enough sperm to get you pregnant.Moreover, he could not even be aware of having dribbled inside.That's why the pull off method of contracception..is so ineffective and causes so many unplanned pregnancies. If you really want to be sexually active at your early age,at least please be safe.Get yourself reliable contraccezione and make him use condoms.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2021): That's normal to some guys.
Leave him and stay together.
Tell him to change.
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