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writes:I have been with this man for just over 6 months. Like all relationships there are so many little things that could be mentioned but it would take so very much time.Right now we're both in the middle of our exams, I have one tomorrow, my last, while he is just starting his. He told me only a few days ago that he doesn't really love me...or at least not how he used to. This is funny in my eyes because not only is he the only person I've ever loved, he's the only person who's ever proposed. I know it feels right; I know recently it's been really hard on us because we've both been stressed out from exams but we both can feel it come to an inevitable end. We're both so awkward around each other now; we're both trying to fix it but we can't while thinking that it's going to end at the same time. It feels like he has already broken my heart but I want to keep him in my arms. Could anyone help this confused soul? Reply to this Question
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reader, princessjasmine  +, writes (1 June 2008):
you know, I told my bf i loved him and he didnt say it back, i didnt expect it, I knokw he cares about me and I dont wanna let him go, Im sticking with him. I know love grows over time, its only been 6 months girl...i didnt love him in 6 months. I think it takes time to develop love for someone (hes smart) hes not rushing into things, if he says it he cant take it bak so hes being wise...also, if he told u he loved u and really didnt ur relationship would end REALLY badly...and he wud like you less and less if he said he loved you. You should talk to him, tell him, it takes time to love someone, and love is a confusing thing too...i bet most ppl dont even kno wat love is when they sy it to ppl. You are also young (is he your age?) u 2 have so much life to live, I really think you 2 should enjoy eachothers company and spend time with eachother, talk to eachother, get to still kno eachother (ive been w/my bf for ayear and i still dont kno enough about him to say im fully in love with him..i cud say im falling for him) u shud also kno the first 6 months are the honey moon stage where everything feels like love...when its just all romance or hormones...when u touch him u think its love...cuz ur really into him physically...love is having a deep emotional connection with someone..how can u have an emotional connection if u dont fully kno someoone...when hes in love with u...he will love even the things that he didnt really like in u initially because the good takes over any bad quality...ask urself..are u really in love? or shud u stil get to kno him more...and if u are in love..then just go with the flow of things like i am...I want my guy to say those words to me...but I also know he wants to still kno me..so wat i do is i relax, i laugh, i joke, i am myself around him....we enjoy eachothers company and thats wat a real bf is about...dude ur not married so just let it flow;) dont b awkward w/eachother, TALK to eachother and ask him wat does he want, does he want to get to know me? or does he want to just stop now cuz he knows he cant fall in love with me..if he tells u yes i can maybe...then b w/him but if he tells u no i dont think its working at all for me (as in i dont even like u) thats the problem..if he likes u then stick w/it...proposed as in he asked u to marry u??
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (1 June 2008):
 As hard as it may seem, you need to end this relationship for both your sakes.
I've been in a similar situation and believe me, it's better to end it now rather than drag it out.
If he has said such things to you as " I don't love you in the way I used to" then this really should have been the break off point but as it is, you need to end it now.
I realise that this is a difficult time to do such things with the exams going on and everything but I think you'd both feel a lot more relieved if you ended it.
I know this will be dificult decision for you to make, but coming from someone who's been there, I know that this is the best, and only way out of the situation.
You can't continue being in a relationship with a love that is dying and you feeling so awkward between eachother, can you? It'll hurt more if you keep it going.
If you are meant to be, then you may get back together in the future but right now, you have to consider whether this relationship is going anywhere and from my point of view, it would seem that it will end if not now, soon.
I hope this helps, I'm sorry that I've had to say this.
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): I think you need to talk to this man about how he feels your relationship is going. If he doesn't love you any more then maybe you have to let him go. It must be horrible because you sound like you really love this guy but if he's not fully in the relationship then it isn't fair on you and you deserve someone who truly does love you. Hope that helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): hiya,it really does sound as though you like this guy.It could be that you are both just really stressed out from your exams or he could be telling the truth.i think you should both tlk it over. At least agree with eachother to just stay friends and to focus on building up ur friendship until after the exams when you are both more relaxed and less stressed. After the exams arrange a night where you can both sit and discuss ur relationship.Just remember that evemn if it dosn't work out its all for the best and im sure there's plenty of other great guys that would love to go with u!Best of Luck x
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