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writes: Just thinking about something-With my b/f for more than a year and probably shouldn't be thinking about things from last summer b/c it was a long time ago.I remember one time last summer I went through his contact list for his phone and saw 2 girls numbers I never saw before which kind of freaked me out. Later that evening we went to a diner and I randomly just picked up his cell and said can I look at it and he said no of course. I wanted try to get an explanation from him. The next time I look at his phone--those numbers are deleted which probably meant he wrote them somewhere else--in a year he hasn't gotten weird phone calls in front of me--meaning at night when I see him or 3 am--I would figure if he was up to something, they probably would have called or text messaged sometime that I was with them and probably would have caught something by now. Should I be worried that he was seeing them too during that time or even cheating on me now? I never mentioned it to him. I guess there can be a few reasons for having those numbers..and no I don't think it was a relative or anything of the sort. and I probably shouldnt be worried about something occuring months ago but i was just thinking back at it. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2006): I think you are being way too paranoid and have nothing to worry about.
I have tons of female friends and there is no way a girlfriend would know who they all were, e.g. some go back to my days at college! If she asked me, I'd happily tell her who they all are, but her distrust and insecurity would worry me a lot. Turning it around, I certainly wouldn't ask her to tell me who everyone is in her phonebook.
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reader, jezibelinhell +, writes (16 July 2006):
 First off, a year is far too long to wait to mention something that bothers you so much. More than the cell #'s I'd be concerned about the lack of communication in your relationship. This has been festering in you for a year! Why did you feel like you couldn't talk to him about your feelings? When I'm upset with my boyfriend, time stops until we discuss it and find a solution. Regarding your specific issue. I'd say you have reason for concern, simply because when you asked if you can look through his phone he said no. What possible explanation could there be for him not wanting you to look at his phone list? You already know the answer, and you knew it a year ago. It's kind of crazy to have a discussion a year later, but it's also crazy to be with someone that has something to hide from you...no matter how big or how small. Always insist on transparency in a relationship. Prevents headaches down the road. Good luck! :)
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (16 July 2006):
 Any other things that may give you pause for thought?
You cannot seriously doubt your BF after a year on from deleting those numbers? If you do then whta else has made you think like that?
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