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writes:I'm 16 years old and feel like im missing out on a unique, somewhat important experience. I've tried to avoid ranting about love, but i feel i've exhausted most other things i find interesting over years, and i've finally reached my breaking point.The last time i was enganged in a conversation with a girl was in 8th grade, the last time i even made contact with, hell, i can't even remember. I haven't dated yet, and have asked out a few girls(at around 7th grade) but that was always met with rejection. I'm still waiting on my first kiss, but knowing i haven't even talked to a girl in at least 2 years for recreational purposes, that hardly seems feasible. I'm very good at reading people, im a practical guy, and i can get by without love if the past has taught me anything, but i figured i'd have to face this at some point. Suggestions? Help would much appreciated. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2010): The worst thing you can do is to keep yourself trapped to such situation...I call it psychological rumination.First thing to do is to relax. Sooner or later you will find the right time and the right person to understand you and that would be the initial step to calm down your inner dragon.The only thing I would kindly request from you is to not rush yourself to do something that you will regret for the rest of your life.Just take things extremely slowly, enjoy your life by doing things that have valuable meaning, and try not to spend too much time in front of TV, and PC. Get yourself out, go camping with friends, go to cinemas, socialize yourself even more and by doing so, unlimited doors will open ahead, and that would be called "opportunities".
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2010): you are still really young so you are not that far behind dont worry. i have two pieces of advice#1) if you can help it DO NOT fall inlove young. its complicated and messy and nobody is ready for it at your age (or my age since im not that much older). it hurts and creates way more stress then needed when you should spend more time focusing on what you want to do for yourself. i learned this the hard way. i wish i would have never fallen inlove.#2) I understand that you want to date, all you have to do is put yourself out there. if you want to talk to a girl then talk to her. Dont be afraid of rejection the worst thing a girl can say is no and if she does there are PLENTY more out there to ask. and also dont be intimidated by a pretty girl, they might seem scary but they are just people and most of them know it. oh, and there are a very many girls out there who will probably find it refreshing talking to/dating a guy who doesnt have a bazillion girls in his past. good luck and just dont rush into anything when the time is right things will happen for you.
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