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writes:When you have sex there is no guarantee you will not get pregnant, because even when you do use contraception you can use it the wrong way, and no contraception can claim to be 100 percent safe either. I do trust in the contraception I use, and that I wont fall pregnant, but at the same time I think it is smart to at least recognize that as long as you have sex you do run the risk, however small, of pregnancy.But to what extent should one "prepare" for a potential pregnancy? How much should you think about it? It would be ideal to not have sex until you are ready for a child, but then again if that was the case you wouldn't need to use contraceptives as you would be ready for a child.... right?I am asking because I recently had this discussion with my boyfriend, who is scared to death of me falling pregnant. He keeps asking me "what if, what if", and he says he doesn't need for us to plan out all the possible what ifs, yet he still wants some sort of plan I suppose. So, how far would it be smart to think about this, how far should one plan for the unplanned? Reply to this Question
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (19 April 2011):
use a condom, and use the pill, each and every time. that way your guaranteed not to get pregnant, with 1 barrier method and 1 hormonal method :-)
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reader, BeckieYMA6  +, writes (11 April 2011):
 There is one thing that i must say.Get the implant.Of course, if you are worried, use condoms, but it's such a massive burden off your shoulders.and unless it's put in wrong, or it snaps, you're pretty much guarenteed. Barely any pills effect it.And i did find that i kept forgetting my pill.it says within 12 hours, but i know loads have people that have become pregnant on it. You need to take it exactly the same time everymorning, and watch what you take and possibly eat, it's not worth it.Having the implant lasts for 3 years, and you can just forget about it. Also, this may make you feel better. You can tell that it is working because (however disgusting this sounds) the sperm comes out of your body 5 mins later, if not straight away, so if you did have sex without a condom, you are pretty much asured it has worked.I swapped from the pill to the implant, and it has made me feel all round better, the pill made me moody, and i kept forgetting it, which was getting me very worried:s
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (11 April 2011):
 I think you're confusing yourself and looking into way too much.
If we went through life always questioning ourselves in everything we do then people wouldn't live to 100..they would be lucky to make it to 50.
Now if you're trying to prevent a pregnancy but still want to be sexually active with your partner then you get on a form of effective birth control that you will remember to take (if the pill) or the less fuss like the depo shot or vaginal rings/insertions..Also your partner needs to be using condoms. That's about as protected as you can get. It's still not 100% guaranteed you won't fall pregnant but it's pretty unlikely. The only way that is 100% is to abstain from sex.
You need to read up on birth control to decide which one is the best for you..in my experience, the depo shot or any of the insertions have never failed me. The chances of becoming pregnant while on any of those, are very, very low.
http://www.mirena-us.com/?WT.mc_id=MIS119497&WT.srch=1
http://contraception.about.com/od/prescriptionoptions/a/depoprovera.htm
If you're ready to have a child then you don't use any of the above.
Now, if you're boyfriend is deathly afraid of you becoming pregnant then perhaps you two shouldn't have sex.
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