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writes:So, I was texting a guy that I met online for a few days. He asked for my number and we continued texting and then he asked to meet a few days after. We set to meet the next day, Friday at 5:30pm for coffee. Friday comes and I texted him asking him if he we were still meeting up and he said yes, what place again. So, I tell him the place and he asked what time. Now this was around 5:00pm and we were supposed to meet at 5:30. I was getting off work, so I headed straight to coffee place and when I arrived he wasn’t there. So I texted him and told him the coffee shop was closed and waited 5 minutes before I left and ended up going home. So, he finally texted back asking where we should go and I asked where he was and he said he was at the store. Well at that point I was annoyed and said we were supposed to meet at 5:30pm (it was 6:00) so we could meet another time. And he said okay, we can reschedule for another time if that’s what you want and I left it at that. It’s been a few days and I haven’t heard from him. Should I contact this guy or just move on from him?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 January 2018):
 First dates = first impressions!! This guy really failed. He didn't even apologize for being late or recognize that he was in the wrong. It sounds like he was wasting your time which unfortunately does happen when meeting people online. His loss, just don't waste any more time on him or give him any more chances.
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reader, TrueLoveWaits2016 +, writes (26 January 2018):
Yes move on and don't talk to him again. Very disrespectful to try to make you run around waiting for him. Next...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 January 2018):
 Better luck next time!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2018): Thanks for the responses! I’m going to move on and block him. He wasted my time and I won’t allow him to waste anymore of it. And I will be more safe about giving out my number to guys online. I really do appreciate the responses y’all have given me!
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reader, schmidch  +, writes (25 January 2018):
I agree with the other users' answers. Clearly this guy didn't care enough to remember your meetup. If he was really interested, he would have made more of an effort or at least acknowledged that he was running late and warned you in advance if that was the case...
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reader, TylerSage +, writes (24 January 2018):
 When someone acts like they don't care....believe them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2018): I just wanted to add the problem with offering people your number too soon is they can use their GPS app to locate you on a smartphone. That isn't safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2018): Move on! This didn't even start-off on the right foot. If a man doesn't even call to inform you he's going to be late; there is the likelihood he was on-time, saw you, and decided to leave. They will sometimes lead you on, or might be juggling two dates at the same time.
Who cares what his reason is? Dump him and block his calls. Careful about offering your number to guys you haven't actually met in-person. It's best to communicate online, meet in-person at a public place, share some conversation; and then decide to offer him your number.
There is also such thing as far too much texting and/or messaging before you meet. He gets distracted or side-tracked by some other online-dates or hits in his inbox; and you'll become backup, or plan-B.
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reader, N91  +, writes (24 January 2018):
 I agree with Honeypie.
If he can't make the first date then does that bode well for the future? Surely you'd be doing everything you could to make a good first impression. If you proceed with this then id say get ready for a lot of disappointment.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 January 2018):
Move on.
He couldn't even bother to remember the original plan after being the one to SUGGEST you meet up.
He couldn't remember the time OR the place and then didn't even show!
After this "failure to meet" he hasn't even bothered to try and set up a new meet up.
So, no... He sounds like a flaky guy who isn't all that interested or having too many irons in the fire (aka meeting up with multiple women and thus can't keep all the "dates" straight".)
I'd move on. Honestly.
And OP, if you meet someone online and you like them enough to give them your number, HAVE actual phone conversations. Texting is lazy and impersonal regardless of how "personal" either of you try and make it. TALK to a guy. Let him HEAR your voice and wanting to SEE the face that goes with it. LISTEN to his voice and see if it makes you REALLY want to meet him.
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