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*hen123
writes:I don't know how to flirt :( and pick up lines don't work for me. I'm 16 and a junior in high school. theirs always guys that hit on girls and make out in the hallway. i personally, am not a loser, or bad looking. why can't i be like them? i talk to popular girls here and there, with some cute regular girls. but i always get stuck in the friend zone, cuz either 1) i can't put it out that i don't wanna just be a friend or 2) i don't know how to flirt. can anyone please help me out!!!
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reader, Floricica  +, writes (7 February 2010):
My best buddy currently has the exact same problem, overcoming the "friends" stage or even bypassing to a relationship wether it be sexual or dating. In my opinion it has to do with confidence. I have observed that when he is drunk it is easier for him to get with women (I dont recommend going to school drunk hah). But what you need is more confidence.
If you notice a girl is smiling at you willingly, then chances are she is interested, our common tendancy is to deny it conciously (that's where you need to say, "hey, she just smiled at me, I should do something about it"). Eventually you will be given a chance to cross paths and talk, and when it does show your intrest in her, ask her a lot of questions ABOUT HER, not about movies or media etc.. A good thing I have learned is to look her in the eyes constantly, 100% eye contact shows that you are only interested in listening to her. If it goes well ask her to coffee and offer to buy.. Ask her more about herself and remember sticky eyes (pure eye contact), and smile. Cmpliment her or even touch her shoulder or dust off her clothes if theres something there.
Its all about taking risks and going out of your comfort zone, but be yourself. Then you will have an oportunity to ask her out and take things farther.. like making out with her at school haha.
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): i totally agree with the first answer. it may sound a little corny, but it does work(:
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): Try being a bit more agressive in your attempts at flirting. Play-fight, complement her, tuck her hair behind her ear, brush it out of her face. This sounds corny, but watch some chick-flicks, and pick up tips from those. :]
Hope it helps.
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