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writes:I have always wondered...Now, I just have a brother (I am male) and no sisters. I've always wondered... do people find siblings or cousins of the opposite sex to be sexually attractive? Can you "fall in love" with him/her?Or are we humans biologically programmed to not let that happen?Ok, in my case... oh boy.. I find this cousin totally attractive. She's married though. But still... I have a serious crush on her. I will NOT chase after her of course (she doesn't know about this). (This was Ok in the olden days eh? Cousins marrying each other?).I am just wondering if it's just me - if I'm the weirdo (sicko?) here. Anyone else?
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reader, since6 +, writes (7 February 2010):
since6 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the responses! I am not going to act on it because she is MARRIED.
And we are good friends, she doesn't know about my crush on her, and I'll leave it at that. :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): It is very common for cousins to fall in love and even get married a lot more common then people think And in most of the 50 states and the UK it is legal to marry your cousin. That children from cousin's can be born with problems that is just a myth that closed mined and religious people have spread It is not a fact many studies have been conducted and still are being conducted yet that idea has not been proven. I personally Know a couple of children who parents's are cousins and the are perfectly healthy kids!! This is a topic I believe people should become more aware of and get there facts straight Maybe then these people could have a chance at being openly happy without being judged!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): If I were you, I would enjoy the time with her, while it is right now. If you can't do that, then stop seeing her!! Tell her that you are having feelings for her, and she will probably stop seeing you. She may have feelings for you, but, be very careful that she does not hate you in the end for what you feel. Many years from now, you will look back on this as a cry for female companionship and love, but, then feel very unhappy with the out come if you told her and she never wanted to see you again. Can you just be good friends? If not, make up your mind and do not see her again, unless other friends are there and your mind is completely occupied with some thing else.
Sexual feelings are something that we just have to deal with, and a cousin is not the place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): There's no such thing as biological programming to keep relatives away from each other, but it's illegal for siblings or close cousins to marry because their children might have congenital diseases.
Usually the reason why siblings and cousins don't fall in love with each other is because they've grown up together and just can't see it happening. I've heard of a story about twins of the opposite sex who were separated at birth, met again, and fell in love. Fortunately, they discovered they were related before they got married...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): No it's not wrong to have feeling for another human it's nature to be attracted to the opposite sex but it is wrong to act on those feelings
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