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writes:I am inlove with two men. Me and Steekie had been together before for about 6 months then we broke up, because we weren't ready. We both went on and seeing other people, but we were still seeing eatchother as friends and during 4 years we became best friends, even though we still loved eacthother very much and would do anything for eatchother, we know eatchother for about 6 years now.The other guy Flam i was dating at that time i was so madly in love with him, we were dating for 3 years on and of thought he was my soulmate, but we faught a lot because he didn't know what he wants. he moved but his eyes wen't open to late know all he wants is me, but i can't give him that because he wants me to move to live with him, but im very unsure and i still don't trust him. Steekie on the other hand i have an unexplainable amazing connection with him we trust each other with everything and we stand by eatchother even when it hurts, thru thick and thin we said. but he doesn't know what he wants now because he got hurt. he doesn't wanna hurt me, but he doesn't wanna let go of me either. help me what do i do? who do i choose? because i still love them both.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2012): You are young and will have opportunity to meet someone who knows what they want, will love you, have no excuses and will adore you. No relationship is perfect but if Steekie is telling you, he's been hurt, he's afraid, he doesn't want to hurt you, he's just not that into you. I don't care how people have been hurt before besides abuse or violence that is, we have all hurt before, this is life. But we all manage to find that person that makes us forget about all that and move forward with. The ex is an ex for a reason, he should stay this way. Your giving Steekie what he wants, someone who will always be there, waiting, while he enjoys his life while telling you yes, stay with me, but not too close because I don't want to hurt you because I still want to have my cake and eat it too. Enough, put your foot down, put yourself first and move on. Let go and find someone great. Quit being a back burner for someone, two someones!!! You'll only end up hurt or hurting yourself if you chose either of them. And, honestly, let's be real, it is impossible to truly love two people at the same time. Get yourself together and rethink your situation. Get your self worth in check. Why would you want to chose either of them who let you go, who didn't appreciate or take care of what they had when they had it???
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reader, Aphrodite.duh  +, writes (16 September 2012):
Well, I've just always wanted to say this to someone, and now I get my chance!
As Johnny Depp once said, if you ever find yourself stuck choosing between two guys, choose the second, becuase if you truly loved the first, you wouldn't have fallen for the second.
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