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male
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30-35,
throese
writes:So, I've realized I have confusing communication skills. It ultimately depends on the environment and who my audience is at the time. Specifically, I'm terrible when it comes to speaking to women, unless we click right off the bat. Most of my friends are women, more so than men, but I am fine with that. My issue is this: I'm currently interested in a beautiful young woman who I've known for the last 4-5 years. I've asked her previously (and just once) if she'd want to go on a date with me in which she replied "Sure, why not? What do I have to lose?" I'm still patiently waiting for that one date. I don't want to bug or pressure her about it, but I just want to make sure that it is something she really wants to do and have an honest and good time while doing so.I really like and care about her and we talk almost every day. She broke up with her ex of 5.5 years (known each other for a total of 8) two months ago. I know it will take time and I'll continue to be patient and wait, however, I'm just not sure if she really wants to go out. Anyway, I hope you all have a wonderful day. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2014): You have always known her with that ex of 5.5 years... She doesn't think of you more than a friend right now, and even if she did, the recent breakup is way more prominent in her mind than you. She needs *time* to heal.As an older man who's been in almost the exact same situation, let me say this. Do not wait for her.If you really like her and when the time is right, gently explain:How much you like her romantically (be brief), that you can imagine she's going through a lot of different feelings from the breakup, and that you'll respect the time she needs to be single right now. In the future, if you both are single and want to pursue a relationship, then we'll talk about it then.OK, after you've said all that, then you must move on. Do *not* waste time waiting for her. Join a dating site, make new friends, pursue others. It'll show her that you're a catch and that you're serious about finding a mate. *If* and when she's ready, she'll let you know that she's interested in dating. If your age is correct (around 25 years old), then you have plenty of time to find a really good match. Use this time wisely.
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