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writes:Ok I'm kind of new at this and haven't ever really asked anyones opinion before, but I'm just at a loss... I have been single for sometime now and I meet these guys that seem to be so great and start out good but then after about a week or two it turns to NOTHING. There is this one guy that I have really started to like he isn't the boyfriend type but he makes me smile, and when we sleep together (in a nonsexual way) I feel so comfortable like I have no worries. The thing is when we are together it seems like he is interested but when we are apart there is nothing. I'm just really confused, I wish someone could just tell me what I am doing wrong or if I'm looking into the wrong guy or if it is me. Reply to this Question
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reader, Arianz  +, writes (26 December 2008):
 Dear,
one thing i believe that A best friend can be a good husband.
1. He makes u smile it means he like to see u happy
2. U feel comfortable and no worry with him
3. he is a nice guy.
I think all girls want it from her boyfriend or hubby.
U r close to him so u know how u fel with him.
If u feel u safe with him and comfort with him and feel that this guy can make u happy, if he is a good person then i prefer that U CAN GO AHEAD WITH THIS GUY.
Now up to u...cause u know ur expectation and what u want from a guy.
So u better run more as a friends....
I hope u will find ur destiny...
best of luck
take care
arianz
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (24 December 2008):
 Perhaps he enjoys the closeness of the friendship. He may not be ready to move it to another level by becomming an item. If there is no sex, sleeping in the bed with you gives him comfort. If there is a nothingness when you aren't together perhaps in time it will happen.
For now do your best to take one day at the time. Accept what you can and value that highly. This day and time when a man is in your bed most likely it isn't to sleep. Unfortunantly that is a sign of the times. He could be unaware that you feel so strongly about him. Don't press the issue and soon he will begin to figure it out if you keep doing the things you are now.
When you allow this friendship to continue on it's path in it's own time there is a big possibility that one day things could become more. Be prepared to accept friendship in case he just doesn't want a serious kind of relationship. The thing you can hope for to maintain and long lasting, healthy friendship. In time it could turn out to be more, let things happen naturally and like the Unfolding Petals of a ROSE allow all of the Beauty Shine from beginning to end.
The Not the boyfriend type........sometimes become changed when the HEART starts to feel more than it ever knew it could. Sometimes they even wind up The I Ain't getting married kind.......and then you read about them in the paper in the Weddings! Believe me it does happen. My Mama used to tell me NEVER SAY NEVER!
Take your time and enjoy the friendship you have, if nothing else comes from this, you will at least found a PRECIOUS GIFT in that of a FRIEND.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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