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writes:There's a guy i got to know during a certain program at my school,which lasted for 3weeks.We're both in our final year of the same college.During this period,i got to know the guy better and even noticed that he's kinda cute.Well,we've been talking since the program.I've been to his room several times and he's been to mine several times as well.One time,he even begged me to go to his room,saying he'd give me a gift.When he comes to my room,he even asks me when he should come again.Lately though he's been different.I went to his room yesterday and didnt find him.I called him, he didnt answer.I sent him a text telling him i was disappointed that i ddnt find him,he didnt reply.I waited the whole of today and he didnt call or anything.I called him this evening and he said i could go see him.So when i went i asked him what he will be doing tomorrow since its a public holiday, and he said he has nothing to do.When i asked him if he'd like to go for a walk,he said he has to check with his classmates,he might have some assignments to do with them.Does that mean he's not interested in me?I was looking at his phone when i went to his room today and i saw a message from a person saved as '1'.The message looked like the person writing is his girlfriend.She was teasing him on how nervous he was to meet her family,and she also said she misses him already.The strange thing is that this guy NEVER talks about her! Even when i ask him if he has a girlfriend,he doesnt say whether he has one or not.What should i do?He seems like a nice guy but i'm not sure if he likes me.And when a guy has a girlfriend,doesnt he make it known quickly so that you shouldnt start getting interested?Confused.
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reader, chinana  +, writes (11 July 2011):
 Hope I am not too late. But dont sleep with him, dont give into him. In spite of what he is saying you are not obliged to sleep with him. Does he even spend time with you, is he treating you the way someone who wants or is in a serious relationship is supposed to? Just my opinion but a man who is really serious just wont put the "have sex with me of get lost" approach. Dont allow other people to mess with your feelings. Listen to your sixth sense and forget about him. You are educated and smart you will find another guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, over a year later, im back,updating you. We've finished school, we have our degrees and we're working. He's come back,saying while we were at school he didnt want to be in a serious relationship since he was just coming from a breakup. He says he now wants to go out with me but he just keeps talking about sex. He says he cant be in a relationship without sex, he cant wait to do it with me, and sends all kinds of sexy messages. Even though he says he's for a relationship, i think his priority is sex. We're currently in different cities but i will visit his city next week on business. He says he is very excited and cant wait to have sex with me. This is a guy that i liked but honestly im not comfortable with the way he is handling things because this is not my idea of how a relationship starts. What do you think?
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reader, chinana +, writes (27 May 2010):
whatever my dear just keep your distance from this guy, stop calling him or looking for him. Give him time to decide what he wants. If he really wants to be with you and he likes you, he will eventually get in touch and if he does call you or come to see you, make sure to find out if he has a girlfriend face to face but in a none threatening way. What ever you do dont sleep with him cause a lot of guys nowadays just treat sex like a game and you dont want to get caught in that web because you will just become more confused. I hope my advice is still valid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2010): I think the guy is selfish, typical playboy...
He's obviously not that into you anymore hun...let him go.
He may be cute and nice but if he's ignoring you already then it's time to move on.
He doesn't deserve your extra attention :)
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