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female
age
51-59,
*ottomout
writes:Dear Cupid, Hello, I have been dating a guy for a few months, he was great at first helped me with everything, told me he was married but getting a divorce, he came for a visit a few weeks ago left early saying he needed to get back to finish business didn't hear from him for a week so I did some research found his wife online with pictures of their wedding pictures of the two of them on other sites so I voiced my concern he calls me only to say that his wife/ex wife moved out the funny thing is he still hasn't called me also has added a page to a site I'm on under another name just to get on my site, but doesn't say anything to me or respond to my emails on there, this is the really good part he removed his wife from his page and the wife removed him from hers but I don't understand this situation at all? The man does not work lost his job a few years ago claims the house is his says the only reason she was there was to help pay bills because he couldn't do it, he quoted that the wife was fighting him for the house that's why the divorce was not finished? Then weeks later he tells me she moved out? To be honest I was not nice about voicing my concern but if he really cared then I guess he would have tried to talk to me instead of hiding away behind some page on my site, please help me to understand this so I can move on. Thanks
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reader, toomuch stress +, writes (3 October 2010):
 Well, your first problem is he is married. Although he says he is in the process of the getting a divorce, this is a very common excuse to convince people to let them cheat on their marriage. I'm not exactly sure what is going on there but it doesn't sound right and it seems as if your questioning it as well just by looking at his wife/ex wife's page.
He sounds very shady and he is definiately trying to hide something or someone from you. Your best bet is to break ties with this man. It is always a bad sign to us if there is someone in a relationship (regardless if he claims it is undergoing change or not) and they are with us. If they don't take their current relationship seriously, how do you think they will take yours?
Break ties with this man and move on.
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