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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:hi, I cannot stop thinking about my male friend, I've been friends with since childhood. We are adults now, he has a girlfriend, who I admit is beautiful. Recently I can't stop fantasizing about being with him physically. He's been on my mind constantly for weeks now, not just the physical side of him, everything about him. I just noticed how special he is. My feelings aren't because of the girlfriend, she's been around for a while, I thought I could be jealous but i don't think it's that. Outside relationships were never a problem, we've been friends, at most flirting when we were younger, I didn't see him in that way. Now i do.Since university and then work we've grown apart and I mostly want us to be close like we were before, hang out more (still close just don't see each other often). i'd never disrupt his relationship. After having separate lives for the past couple years, wanting to be with him so often is out of the blue and I'm so confused by the idea of him finding out what I'm thinking now. Thinking about him non stop is killing me. I need ideas on what to do please!!Thanks for any thoughts.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (6 October 2010):
 What can you do apart from move on? Or, if he really is a close friend, you could tell him how you feel. That could ease the rush of your thoughts. But, to be honest, that is probably not the best idea since he is in a relationship and doing something like that COULD jeopardize everything between you and him and his girlfriend. Just move on from those feelings.
I hope that helps.
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