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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid, im really confused and troubled as to what to do right now. I have feelings for this girl who I am best friends with. I want us to become closer and get into a relationship. We have talked about it somewhat and we are both somewhat afraid that if it doesnt work out between us we will lose eachother. She has had a lot more experience dating than I have though we are close in age. I just don't know what to do right now. Any help would be greatly apreciated
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (20 July 2009):
My best advice is this. Understand that you already know each other and that if you do decide to date that you don't have to go through the "getting to know each other" stage. Also remember to keep your focus on what you enjoy about each other as friends and let that drive a relationship. There are certain things you lose by being in a relationship that you had when you were just friends. Such as being able to talk to each other about other guys or girls. Make careful notes of all the things you enjoy about that person as a friend and ask yourself if you would still have that as BF and GF. If the answer is no ask yourself if you can handle that. Talk to her about it. Talk to yourself about it. You can have a good relationship with this girl if you remember to understand and treat her with the same caring approach you have as just being friends. Hope this helps
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