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Question - (24 July 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 25 July 2011)
A female South Africa age 36-40, anonymous writes:

hey guys.ill try keep this short.my ldr wants a baby so bad i dont know what to do.im not on birth control and i will go this week for that.my problem is that i told him that im preg and he is happy but i didnt just lie.im not sure if i am.im scared to take a preg test.i told him im going to abort if i am and he told me its goin to be the end of us if i do that as he wants to be a dad.if im preg for real and go through with the abortion,is it fine to lie and say i miscaried or should i tell?i dont wanna lose him. .am i too selfish or am i just dumb

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2011):

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thanks a lot for this.i know wat i will do now.and financially we are ok.but i will tell him we cant. Not now

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2011):

you shouldn't have lied to him to start with... you're in a relationship, and if you cant be honest with each other what can you do?

You need to do a pregnancy test before you get birth control - you can't go on the pill etc if you're pregnant.

How would a baby work in a LDR? Would you move to be together? you both need to be together - a baby needs two loving parents.

it's not fair of him to say that if you're not pregnant it's over. Are you both financially and emotionally stable to raise a child? Explain to him that you only lied because you didn't want him to leave you. If you have the abortion, be honest with him. He deserves to be treated with respect. If you don't want a baby right now, tell him that. tell him that it's not a 'no', it's just a 'not right now'.

Hope you get everything sorted! x

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