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female
age
36-40,
*ovely-laura
writes:I've been going out with my boyfriend for two and a half years and he told me yesterday he needs a break from our relationship. We've been fighting alot lately, mainly about money. We both have good jobs but he wastes his money on stupid things then asks me for a loan.At first I didnt mind but now it really bothers me as he makes more money than me. I told him he needs to learn to control his spending and that i'd help him only when he actually needed it. We live far away from each other but this has only recently happened as he changed jobs. we only see each other on weekends but we havent seen each other in two weeks. I was gonna travel down to him this weekend as I drive and he doesnt but he said he didnt want us to pay for a hotel cause he wants to save for a car. I said ok and asked him how much he's saving and he said he doesnt know. I feel like i cant talk to him about our relationship anymore. He proposed to me two months ago and we made plans to save for a house but he recently told me we're too young to save for a house and we should live life first. we're both 21. I've no problem living life and having fun but i feel so confused. I feel like i cant do anything right and I feel heart broken
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (23 April 2009):
 Sweetie, sounds like you know where you are going in life and he is happy to wander aimlessly along while he depends on you!! Does he think that he can behave like this when he is married??? He also sounds like hes having 2nd thoughts about getting married.... and I must say that a lot of marriage problems are caused by money and how it is spent. If you got married would you be responsible for all the expenses and he spent his money on all the fun things he wanted?? Mmmmmm.. I would say that food for thought!
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