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*adiesm4n217
writes:I've known this girl for years and she's my best friend n all. She recently wanted to give us a try n 2 months into it I'm just not sure about my feelings! One minute I'm like yes I want to be with her, then the next minute I dont. Small things irritate me about her n I think now since we're dating there's feelings involved and it's causing tension. I'm not to sure what to do. I've always told myself just give it a try so that at least then I know I gave it a shot n if it doesnt work it doesnt work but maybe I'm feeling like this because I haven't asked her to be my gf yet n that we're only in the seeing each other phase. It's really doing my head in. Like Ii want it 2 work with her, but sometimes I feel maybe I'm just forcing myself :S
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reader, ladiesm4n217 +, writes (19 November 2009):
ladiesm4n217 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the responses people! i tried suprising her last nite with a movie to watch twilight n because shes the type who doesnt know how to express being grateful n appreciative things turned really bad n we ended up not watching the movie. i felt like shit to be honest and when i drove her home things got ugly, but when we did arrive home she started to apologise n stuff. i really want this to work but at the moment the way im feeling is just pain. how can i be with her if shes going to be like this. all she did was complain about the line n stuff n it jus annoyed me n other small things. right now i dont feel like talking to her. she says she loves me and all these things, but i ask myself how can sum1 say they do when they treat me for granted.
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reader, empop  +, writes (18 November 2009):
It sounds to me like you're psyching yourself out a bit. Probably because you've been friends with her for a while, you feel this obligation to have a really serious relationship with her. You're in a strange place, because although you are very close with someone personally, your relationship is still very casual.
Had you been starting to date a girl you didn't know, you wouldn't feel this weird tension - you'd just start things out light, and see if things worked out as you got to know her better.
So, I think the best thing for you to do is to try not to worry too much about the future. Just because you know her well as a friend, doesn't mean you know her as well as a girlfriend. But, even short relationships are worthwhile so even if this doesn't last it doesn't mean you should end it now. Just, try to take every date at a time - just enjoy the moment. If it ends, at least you can look back fondly on the time you did have, and if it doesn't, then it will be the start of a great thing.
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