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writes:Lately, I've started feeling like I'm more genderfluid. I'm a girl, but I really like the idea of dressing up as a guy and being a guy as well. I'm a little confused, because this is a new feeling. What should I do? Is there anyone in the same situation who can help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (8 April 2015):
 I see that no one wants to touch this one. First let me say that every passing thought and feeling are not definitions of your personality, gender identity, sexual orientation, and so on. Also I understand being confused. You know what you are but you feel differently some times. That leaves you questioning.
First advice, even in today's more open and understanding society, people who are different have a tougher time. I know it's not fair, that's just what is. Fortunately being female you will be under a little less pressure to conform. I would advise keeping your experiments with this to your self for a while. I wouldn't show up to school or a social event dressed male. You can easily change your look to more androgynous, Shorter hair more pants, less skirts. I would make changes slowly.
As far as talking to your parents, if you think they will understand bring them in. If you think they will freak out, downplay it. Say things like, I don't really like that style it's to frilly. Don't use feminine or girly to describe what you don't want.
Gender fluid to me means that some days you feel more feminine, other days you feel masculine. This could leave you developing 2 wardrobes, or a very flexible wardrobe.
It has been my experience that some days you will just not want to deal with all the girl stuff. It would be a good idea to know where the family, or gender neutral toilets are on those days. Better to be on your own.
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