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writes:I lived with my boyfriend for few months and he told everyone and his family about me infact to get married though he's much older. I'm 19, he's 36 and everyone is aware and I must say this is true love. The problem began when i moved out you know to go back to my family and we both agreed since we weren't married to put things the right way. He was acting distant and said he was going through a lot but that he still loved me. We saw once after a month I moved. Now he is more distant, talking about bills, gas money and so on.. he even said at a point have I told my parents about him when he has done the same. How do I act when he has acted so distant and said some nasty things to me, I haven't spoken to him for about 4days now, I'm really hurt but at the same time how do I show him I still want to be here for him during this bad time or whatever he is going through though he has cut me out telling me he would call me and wouldn't, txt him, no reply, call him, wouldn't pick up sometimes or he is busy. He sent me the last txt that he was sleeping, wud call me back when I called but haven't heard from him for 4days now, plan not to but the truth is I love this guy with all my heart. When I ask him thru the phone if I should walk away and to take out my remaining things, he wouldn't reply then later, actually when we saw the last time, that was a week ago, he told me to leave my things that everything would be fine.I am so confused and worried, i really don't know what to do. My pride has been hurt. Please need your help. Thanks.
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reader, sweetheart1nonly +, writes (27 June 2008):
sweetheart1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI dont know why my other questions aren't coming up.
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reader, sweetheart1nonly +, writes (27 June 2008):
sweetheart1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou are right but I have tried and still left haging so do I call him now or wait much longer like 2 weeks or a month or just forget and wait for him to call. The only thing holding me too is I still have some of my things at his place which I told him I wanted and he said I should leave them. Guess he's scared if I get them I would finally walk away.
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reader, sweetheart1nonly +, writes (27 June 2008):
sweetheart1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou are right, Thanks. So should I call him now or wait much longer? and what do I say?
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reader, NL  +, writes (27 June 2008):
I dont agree with the other response. Atleast not all of it.
I do agree that you need to talk; explain how you feel, what you want and where you stand and then ask those questions to him.
Don't just run away, because if he does love you as you do him although he would love to chase you, if he cant even tell you how he feels, pick up the phone, or even respond to your calls then he wont run after you. If YOU think he is worth it, then be patient and talk to him.
If you want my opinion he doesnt sound that great. You are still very young, if it doesnt work out there really is plenty more fish in the sea.
Good luck
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reader, sweetheart1nonly +, writes (27 June 2008):
sweetheart1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo do I text him that I would like to come pick up my remaining things or wait longer before I do it? I'm hurt at the same time, this is the only time he is going through a lot and as much as I want to be there for him, he isn't letting me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): I personally wouldn't allow him to jerk me around like that and pull away from me without explaining. In fact, I would demand an explanation. He can't come in and out of your life as he pleases. And if he can't give me an explanation, then I wouldn't ask, I would just simply go and grab my things and leave and tell him its over.
If he really loves you he will come back for you and give you an explanation. But don't just hang around in limbo waiting for him to come around. That's not fair to you. Don't let him treat you that way. You need to walk away. And if he wants to fight for you then let him fight for you.
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