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*teve21
writes:I am in a longterm relationship with a girl from another country.We were casual for around 6 months, and connected immediately. Being able to be very open with each other on everything including past relationships, sex etc. We got together last January and things went downhill from there. Jealousy, insecurities and many other things bought us to a sad and rather nasty end in April.In September she contacted me saying she missed me. We eventually re entered a relationship and spent Christmas and New year together. Arguments were pretty frequent throught x mas.Recently we felt the need to clear the air and decided to tell each other everything that bothers us in our relationship, in an effort to get over our past demons and move forward.I told her that i am unhappy with her lying/changing truths to suite situations. Her ability to forget conversations and things she said when she quite clearly said them.None of this went down well and now we have split up.I deeply love her and would be grateful of any advice. How can i approach bringing us back together, whilst still being able to address my worries in our relationship.... I have been more than accommodating with her issues.Thankyou.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): You love her, but this just sounds like more heartache ready to happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): It may be time to look for someone more honest, more understanding, even closer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): I don't think there's much of a future for you two.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): this just sounds like more heartache ready to happen. It may be time to look for someone more honest, more understanding, even closer.
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (21 January 2011):
 Ouch... That's no fun. But you're long distance so you can't see her often, you argue constantly, already broke up twice now, she lies and changes her story frequently, and open communication just makes her upset. I don't think there's much of a future for you two. You love her, but this just sounds like more heartache ready to happen. It may be time to look for someone more honest, more understanding, even closer.
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reader, steve21 +, writes (21 January 2011):
steve21 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your answer!
our relationship isnt black and white as none are. i have done some dumb things too but i am just explaining the situation that has brought us to an end.
i specifically would like any guidance on how someone would approach this kind of issue. The occasional lying and changing of opinions. 'I didnt say that'. When quite cleary she has. Confronting it head on has obviously not worked and appeared as an accusation. However it would be also foolish of me to just brush it off just to get back together as appearing a pushover could just make this situation worse in the future.
Any ideas welcome!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): i dont think you can change that type of personality. in the long run it would be better staying away. people who do that are a danger and usualy walk over people. she is a liar and you need to get out.
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reader, steve21 +, writes (21 January 2011):
steve21 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioncorrection"long distance relationship", not longterm
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