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41-50,
*tar8529
writes:I am not sure if my boyfriend really wants a relationship and I am concerned that he may have someone else. For one I have only briefly met one friend and his wife. We have never done anything together with any of his friends and their girlfriends or wives. We have been dating 7 going on 8 months. He changed his relationship status on facebook but doesnt say he is in a relationship with me. He has no pictures of us or me on his facebook page. Just him and his dog. His wallpaper of his phone is of his dog. I gave him pictures of us and he doesnt have it anywhere in his house yet I do have it up in my room. He goes to church but has never invited me to go. Met a few family members and that is it. Shouldnt he be proud for me to be his girlfriend. I get told by a lot of people how pretty I am and I am not conceited in any way. What is his problem??
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reader, star8529 +, writes (3 February 2011):
star8529 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have introduced him entirely into my life and also on facebook. I have posted pictures of us together. We recently talked and when I asked him what he saw as our future his reply was I dont know what my future will be in 2 weeks how can I answer what out future will be, and I didnt like the answer. No talks about marriage. We both have been married before, I have 2 kids.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (2 February 2011):
 It sounds like he has only invited you a little bit into his life. Maybe he is very personal / private with his life and doesn't like to invite new people in.
I am not sure if it has anything to do with you, but ultimately it sounds like you want a larger slice of his life. If you haven't already done so, now's the time to sit him down and ask him where you think you are going next. Do you have marriage plans? You going to raise a family? You need to ask him where he thinks you and him are going to be down the road.
Also, have you invited him into your life? Have you introduced him to your friends and family? Is your facebook page indicated that you are with him? Sometimes these things are based upon reciprocity.
I'd also express your concerns vocally about not being more involved in his life. If you are marriage material, you want to get to know more about him and be a more central part of his life. His reaction to your question will ultimately reveal what his intentions are.
Good luck.
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reader, Bluesi  +, writes (2 February 2011):
I think the first thing you need to do is ask him, a relationship is built on trust and honesty, you need to be open about your concerns and be truthful as to the reasons why you ask ie you are worried about losing your relationship, communication is key. If he wont talk to you maybe you are better off out of the relationship in the long run. Good luck and i hope all goes well for you
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