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writes:Bear with me as this is long. . .I recently broke up with my girlfriend and have been on the mend for some time now. At my work we were short staffed and my boss's daughter came in to fill in. She is gorgeous and I love talking with her, we can talk for hours and we have so much in common. She is really a great person. I did get her number and occasionally I do text her. I could tell she was definately interested. However, there are two problems: She is my bosses daughter and she is 17 (I am 21). Everyone says I shouldn't go there but I can't describe how I feel about her. I did ask her out and she said she didn't think it was a good idea but if we were not coworkers under her father then she definately would. We still text and speak as friends however.Last night I went to several bars with a friend and became quite drunk. While at a casino, I texted her saying, as much as I can recall, that I thought she was an amazing person and that I really cared for her (I don't know exactly what I said). She has not texted me nor returned my call today; I feel like an idiot. I did apologize for the text today but I'm confused right now. She didn't go to work today because she was ill so perhaps she doesn't feel well enough to talk. Is she not interested anymore? If I've done something to piss her off I will feel really bad because she has done alot of really nice things for me. I would love nothing more than to at least be this girl's friend but I doubt I would have the approval of her father.Please give any honest advice regarding everything, I really need another opinion on this and I am so confused right now. . .
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (24 July 2009):
 You text her to apologise and you should leave it at that, you dont want to bombard her with messages and make her think that you are pestering her!
Will you see her at work again soon? I think that you should just leave it for now, wait until she is better and back at work and see how she acts around you then. If she is normal around you then you can be sure that your text didnt piss her off! If she avoids you then you will know that she probably feels it is best to stay away from you when you have those sorts of feelings for her.
I think she is probably trying to keep her distance from you a bit because she knows that nothing can happen between you, therefore if she stops texting/calling so much then maybe both her feelings and your feelings will go away.
Of course you can be friends but think carefully, are you just settling for her friendship to keep her in your life? Do you think that by being friends maybe oneday you will get together? That is totally normal, a lot of people feel this way when they cant be with someone! But you have to decide, is it making it harder for you to get over your feelings for her? Because as long as she is in your life then your feelings are unlikely to go away, and do you really want to keep on pining for a girl you cant have when there are plenty of other girls out there?
Wait and see what happens when she gets back to work, I'm sure you havent done anything to piss her off. It just sounds like she is backing off a bit because she doesnt want to lead you on, she seems pretty sure that nothing can happen between you so she wont want to make things worse by being too close to you.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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