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writes:So I have a little problem. For about 6/7 months, I have had a crush on a co-worker, and now he knows. So it was my birthday today, and we were all at work. I was given a card from all my co-workers and waited until the end of the day to read it. I was sitting by myself when this guy from my social circle came up to me and started talking to me, he then saw the card and started teasing me about the man I fancied. Then he yelled ‘Did he say I Love you in it? Did he offer you a kiss’’(this guy has noticed how this man I flirt on a daily basis) and without realising it the man i fancied was standing right behind us and heard everything. I was so upset and embarrassed. He saw me put the card over my face in sheer embarrassment. What do I do? I am mortified. After he heard, he gave a sideways smile and walked off. I am more worried about the impression he got. If there, are any guys reading this how would you feel if you found out a girl fancied you buy one of her friends teasing her? I’m lucky as I won’t see him, because he has been given a promotion and will work in a new office that is in a different building to me, but still I can’t live it down. What should I do?Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2014): Thank's everyone for your advice, i will take it on board at work tomorrow.
I know it's bad but i can't stop reliving it, i am only human. But it's burnt on my mind.
I just hope he did not feel bad
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 June 2014):
 Amen to WiseOwlE's advice.
Be professional at work and play it cool.
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reader, Mark1978  +, writes (1 June 2014):
 I think the person who should be embarrassed is the fool who, clearly still thinking they were in a school playground, tried to embarrass you by shouting silly comments.
You should not be mortified! So you fancy someone, what's to be embarrassed about? I do think you should ask this guy out if he is single and you are too. If he turns you don't you don't have to face him if he is leaving.
Mark
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reader, YouWish +, writes (1 June 2014):
 As an aside, I do believe that this is the shortest answer I have ever seen WiseOwle make. That's actually disappointing to me, because I enjoy reading his long posts very much.
Actually, you are unlucky that he'll be seeing you. Unless you're married to someone else, which it sounds like you're not, then why are your feelings an embarrassment? Your feelings should be something to be proud of, not something to cower from. Even if he doesn't feel the same, which we don't know the answer to that, being a girl who knows what and who she wants is an admirable quality, so be proud and own your feelings.
What is the worst that can happen? Knowing someone fancies you, even if you don't reciprocate those feelings, is a massive shot to the ego. Especially a guy's ego. It is intoxicating, actually.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (1 June 2014):
I don't think it's reason enough to be mortified, you're not in kindergarten. The guy observed you and your crush flirting and made a joke about it. I'm guessing if you were flirting with him he already knew.
Instead of being embarrassed, use it as an opportunity to turn this crush into something more. Ask him out for a drink to celebrate his promotion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2014): Live it down. It's just a mild embarrassment. So now he knows.
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