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writes:I'm 21 and my coworker is 18. I see him as a younger friend and coworker and we get along well (well as in normally). He has been texting randomly recently and I'll respond (not always respond though) naturally without leading him onto anything. The content is usually about funny things that happen at work or other light topics. Perhaps I made a mistake by responding although I didn't think I went too far. However this morning I woke up to along message of him confessing to me! I was surprised because we don't talk THAT much and don't have the same shifts. I think seeing me closer to other coworkers (guys and girls) yesterday pushed him to confess. So... How should I respond? He basically he said he has feelings for me and he hopes the message won't affect our professional relationship at work. I don't want to say "I'm not interested in a relationship" with you or anything because he didn't mention anything about a relationship. I think that would make things worse. Should I respond a particular way since he is 3 years younger than me? I don't want to patronize him like he's my little brother but I want to make it clear that I'm not interested. Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2012): Thanks everyone! I was curious to see what you guys would say. I texted back saying "Thanks. It's been great knowing you although I don't feel a connection." And wished him a happy road trip so it wouldn't be too awkward. Well he didn't stop talking to me and we're back to how we were before. But I think he's smart enough to get it.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 August 2012):
 Tell him that you will take it as a compliment, but that you are not interested in him in "that" way.
Be honest. And don't feel BAD about it. Replying to a guys texts doesn't mean you are/were leading him on or putting ideas in his head.
If you don't respond you have no idea how he will interpret it. So be the ADULT and let him know.
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reader, Bitterlysweet +, writes (14 August 2012):
 Ummm well it's simple, just say "look I honestly don't see you as nothing else but a friend." Let me tell you something though, he might just might stop talking to you. They have a really bad ego so he'll stop talking to you for a bit and then he'll go back to normal.
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