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writes:i hate them all!!! you have no idea!! first off they're always make plans without me, and really cool interesting plans every week which really irritates me. they plan then out loud in front of my face and block me out the whole group, the whole circle, everything. the thing that annoys me most is that chances are!! they probably hate my guts!!!! and i can't go make better friends because people seem like they all have their own problems and don't really want to talk to me or they probably think i'm weird? rude? obnoxious? complete nerd freak?? whatever it is they. don't. like. me. for whatever reason they leave me out, try and make me appear as 'the bad one' they ignore me blank me anything possible to make me feel i don't exsist. i used to care about them but not anymore ever since 4 months ago, and this is because, there was something called activites week, you got to go to the london dungeon, london eye, london aqauarium, some next outdoor activity centre, and london boat trip to grenwhich. anyway i was excited, and i told one of my friends, imagine if it was cancelled on the last minute? then she said ok, and on the last minute guess what? it was cancelled, with the money that was paid to go to these places and everything (at the moment i wasn't thinking about everything i said and did, because it look like a letter from the school. i was gutted. then when the whole week had gone. everyone went on activites week except me. and the post came on sunday. post doesn't come on sunday, and they know where i live, and one of them lives close. so im guessing it was them, but have no proof, so life goes on. anyway what do i do, they probably hate, the whole class probably doesn't even care or like me much for what reason. i don't know!!! so pleaseee tell what is going on with these people. how can i leave them and encourage others to like me again. i don't even know what i did to make it get this bad! thanks xx
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 October 2012):
 No you would not look like an idiot, I know you fear that is the case, but I bet that they would be to much of a coward to actually turn around and tell you they don't like you, is there a ring leader that they all seem to be following? There usually is in these cases, if there is avoid asking that person. Plus if the worst comes to the worst and they say that well then all you need to do is keep calm smile and them tell them it is there loss and walk away with your head held high. Best of luck.
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reader, ilovemycrazykittykat  +, writes (20 October 2012):
 This happened to me, too. People who do this are very mean and cruel. I was in a group of moms at my son's school and they made plans to get together with me standing right there and completely excluded me, as if I was not even there.Unfortunately, they were jealous. And they judged me the wrong way. So, they felt a need to hurt me I suppose. But the news flash for them is I could care less. I just stood there and took it, and acted like I did not give a crap. Because I knew that real friends would never do this to me. Clearly they were not real friends, just a bunch of bored housewives who were acting like a bunch of kids in the schoolyard. Yes, I agree with another poster, it is a form of bullying. Easy to pick on one person when you are in a group. I would like to see it if it was a one on one situation. I will bet you that person would be a chicken sh** without the others around to hold their hand.I am okay to stand on my own in the face of a cruel bunch of people. Because I am the one who is strong. Not people who gang up on others. They are the ones who are WEAK and don't even have a clue. Actually, they don't have a clue about much. They are very ignorant and emotionally immature fluffs.So, when anyone does that to you, turn around, keep walking and never give them the privilege of your company or friendship again. The people who value you and truly see you for who you are will never treat you this way. Honestly, it is a reflection on them, never you. So, really, let's just pity these poor fools who are so immersed in their own little worlds with their own little prejudices that they lack very important qualities, empathy and compassion.Don't waste another moment worrying about them. Walk with your head held high. You are BETTER than they are!!!! : )
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2012): There not your friends baby, there silly little school girls who you can move on from..
I had a similar experience in high school(I'm British too) when I was young I was tall lanky with braces and my parents didn't have a lot of money..
However I kept my head down at school left early then most of my year and went to college then uni to do nursing (mental health is my field) and I lost the braces and I kinda blossomed, I met my husband when I was 17teen he was 20 and I got a group of f fiends I'm still currently friendly with after 23yrs I'm just heading toward the big 40 haha though you wouldn't know it to look at me..
I think what made my day was when I was at a venue where a lot of my old high school friends where it was a birthday bash, and I took my sister who I resemble and they all kept thinking she as me, and thinking I was her young looking daughter, made my night . That and there faces as I've kept my figure and my face while theirs has went to wreck and ruin..
My advice is .. Pay them no attention .. Study hard and you'll friends who fit you when your ready.. You sound real nice sweetie.
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reader, franny1297 +, writes (20 October 2012):
franny1297 is verified as being by the original poster of the question aunt honesty, what if i say that and they just say to my face that they don't like me. they would all start laughing at me and i would look like a complete idiot.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (19 October 2012):
I know it seems awful at the minute but things will get better in time. These are not friends they are trying to put you down and exclude you just to hurt you. Stand up for yourself and show everyone that you are not a push over. When they start making plans in front of you stand up be confident and ask them why the are treating you like this if they are meant to be friends? Just ask questions, stand up for yourself and do not let people walk all over you, it is a quality you will need to learn for the future. Then talk to more people in your class, be more friendly and you will soon make friends.
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