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writes:Is someone who is vowing to keep the fact that he cheated on his fiancee before they got engaged a secret, actually ready for marriage? I know this guy who cheated on his fiancee less than a year before getting engaged. They've been together for nearly 5 years. She has no idea that he cheated on her, and he has no intent on telling her. He believes he can live with his guilt and is fairly certain that if he tells her, she will leave. Is this guy ready for marriage based on the fact that he is so willing to cheat, and keep the betryal going by lying to her about it? He vows to never cheat again, but he does have a history of cheating in prior relationships. That she doesn't know about either...and apparently he only cheated on his fiancee one time...but boundaries were clearly crossed with the other woman for several months. The couple is in their mid-20s. Do they have a chance? Is he doing the right thing and what is best for them both? This is a young couple I care about and I worry about his choices and the consequences of his actions, that he is not quite forseeing in their future. Any advice to give to him? Thanks!
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (6 August 2010):
 He doesn't sound ready for marriage, no... You kind of have to worry about anybody who feels that they can keep a secret that big from the person they intend to spend the rest of their life with. Have you asked him "why" he's getting married? Odd question but its something he may not have even thought too hard about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2010): yes, please tell him to learn to be honest and to keep it in his pants in future. or else he will only have himself to blame for destroying his partners life.
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