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writes: Ever since i was pregnant i've been depressed. Okay I'm only 20 years old. And i was pregnant with my first baby. I was only 7 months pregnant when i caught my husband masturbating watching porn. Can you imagine how sensitive i was during my pregnancy . Iv been hurt and depressed ever since then. What can I do to make it better?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2010): I am 28 years old and I was living with my boyfriend. I had trust in him 100% at first when I started dating him until he sent a girl a friendly message via myspace that he claimed he never talked to before. I was going to break up with him for it after he came out and told me they had sex and I got over it and we stayed together. So a year went by, caught porn on his computer, asked him about it over and over again until I got it out of him. Since then my trust issues have went down the hill and I have not ever been the same since. We are not together no more because I could not take it. I know exactly how you are feeling. It's hard to leave when you are married, but I have a low tolerance, so I guess that is why I left. I ha asked him why he would watch it, and he said it was some type of machine that the women used and that he was addicted to it, and it did not have anything to do with me, but I am smart enough to know he had to be getting off to it. He even had a porn on his computer with a girl playing with herself and anal sex porn and I guess because I won't do that with him. I felt very insecure at the time. Its funny how I tried to ask certain people and they said there is nothing wrong with a man in a relationship or marriage watching porn. I really think it is when they have someone they love at home.
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reader, texcard83 +, writes (29 May 2010):
Well, not knowing all of the facts, its somewhat hard to give concrete advice so I was wondering if maybe you could answer some questions first:
Have you talked to your husband about any of this? Does he know how hurt you are because of his masturbation and porn watching?
Have you ever had a discussion with him before regarding watching porn and how upset it makes you feel?
How long has it been since the pregnancy that you have been feeling depressed?
No one can really tell you *how* to tell but you have to ask yourself if it was the emotional sensitivity you felt during the pregnacny that caused these emotions or if you felt this way about porn/masturbation before you got pregnant. Also, were you being intimate with your husband during the pregnancy or did you not feel well enough to be intimate?
I promise to give more insight if you are able to answer these questions!
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