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writes:hi all,well dont know what to do i caught my husband watching gay porn on internet,he says he is not gay just likes watching it .cant understand please help
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reader, Sylvie +, writes (16 February 2009):
My husband not only wtches gay videos, he has been on the internet, and also has contact nos for gay men, "hand job"
and has been to gay saunas/massages. He says it is all just curiosuty, and he would never go the whole hog. He has been like this for several years, but lately it has got worse with missing 1/2 days.
When confronted he just says it was a silly phase and it has passed, but I don't think it has, and I'm very worried and don't know what to do.
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reader, Sylvie +, writes (16 February 2009):
My husband not only watches gay videos, he has been on the internet, and also has contact nos for gay men, "hand job"and has been to gay saunas/massages. He says it is all just curiosity, and he would never go the whole hog. He has been like this for several years, but lately it has got worse with missing 1/2 days.When confronted he just says it was a silly phase and it has passed, but I don't think it has, and I'm very worried and don't know what to do.
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2007): Who knows? I'm married and frequent gay saunas and have not had sex with a woman for twelve years. I consider myself to be bisexual.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2007): Don't panic. I am a man that also enjoys gay porn but am not gay. I would worry if there are other signs..unaccounted absences, phone calls, effeminate behavior. If not, its not a big deal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2007): In many cases, we already know the answer to questions like these but we're hoping someone will give us some kind of alternate explanation. How did you "catch" your man watching gay porn? Had you suspected anything before? The usual answer is yes. More to the point, he said that he "enjoys it", not "I was just curious". This implies that he's watched it before. Although it's normal to have fantasies about all kinds of "taboo sex", he may have some issues that he's not ready to deal with. We still live in a very narrow-minded society and it certainly wasn't accepting for anyone growing up different.
So maybe you have to admit to some hard truths yourself. Often it's the one's we love that accept we are gay long before we can accept it ourselves.
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reader, tyap  +, writes (4 May 2007):
this is not a problem at all, believe me. almost all guys do this. it is nothing to worry about. very few of us are 100% straight (or 100% gay). Lots of straight men have fantasies about other guys, sometimes at the peak of orgasm, and this leaves them feeling very insecure. It's one of the most carefully kept secrets in male society. You're really only gay when you've concluded, without a doubt, that you enjoy males sexually more than females. Random fantasies and even sexual encounters don't make you gay. your husband is telling the truth.
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reader, Handycam +, writes (4 May 2007):
This might not be as serious as you think. Lots of guys (and I mean LOTS), a lot more than would care to admit, are curious about this type of thing but would never own up to it. You need to find out if he just enjoys watching it or would he like to do any of this for real. Talk to him about it (without shouting or accusing him of being gay). Find out what it is he likes about it. Depending on what turns him on, it could be something you could put into your own sex life. Although, in itself, it's harmless, I would keep an eye on it. You never know what things can develop into.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2007): im in a silmilar situation except my partner contacted them by texted i as your self am confused and gutted and im waiting for advice on what to do. I was so sick with worry i made him have a full sexual health check and myself because i paniced thankfully everything was fine.Keep on talking thats what we are doing, if he had gone off with a man or met someone i would have walked away but because he hasnt maybe its just a fantasy afterall we all have them
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