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writes: Recently my bestest best friend-lets call her Amy- got a huge crush on a boy a year older than herself(call him Rob) who no doubt, she is great friends with. They hang out alot and recently worked closely in a school show. Amy is obssed with Rob and desperately wants to go out with him. No problem to me, i wanna support her through this, but the big problem is, my other best friend (Lilly)is ALSO obsessed with this boy!!!Amy and Lilly used to be such good friends but now it always seems as if there is this constant rivalry between them as to who can impress Rob more and who is gunna get him as a boyfriend in the long run. I wanna support my friends and help them get a date with the boy they love but i'm stuck in the middle! I don't wanna support either of them becuse it would be unfair to tell one "Oh go on! Ask him out!You're made for each over!" and tell the other the same thing! I don't know who to support! What to do! Help!
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reader, Alexamanoo +, writes (14 April 2006):
Okay, this must be hard for you. However, I think that boys will come and go for the three of you but you three as friends can last forever. I these two people have forgotten their own relationship, you need to remind them that this guy is just a boy and in a month, maybe even a year, if they go out with him, they probably wouldn't anymore. But they will be friends for years to come. I hope this helps you. Good luck with all your pursuits.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (14 April 2006):
 Hi,
being caught in the middle is always a sticky situation. Especially when you know one of your friends (if not both) are going to end up unhappy. The only thing you can do is sit back and watch this whole thing play out. If you support one, the other thinks you like them better and a row between Best Buddies over a boy is just pointless. Don't get involved and root for one over the other, it's just a recipe for disaster. Sit your friends down and tell them that they're the best friends in the world to you but you're not going to choose one over the other so while they're with you the subject of Rob doesn't come up.
You could always talk to Rob yourself. Tell him both of your Best Friends like him a lot but he's got to either choose one of them or turn them both down. Tell him to do it soon and whatever you do, stick with your buddies!
Hope this all irons out! Good Luck, All The Best and Blessed Be,
Phoebe
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