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writes:I have been friends with this guy for over ten years u can say in a way we are each others comfort zone. When either one of us a problems with in a relationship we call on one another r if we are not in a relationship we can release stress with each other. Well I started dating this guy and I told him about it plus I told the guy that am dating about him as well said he was a good friend of mine that Im not willing to lose cause we have been friends to long and he understood that. Well I did talk to me friend for about three weeks we would call but I just didnt answer for whatever reason he would txt but I just didnt call him back. We the relationship wasnt what I wanted so I broke it off with the guy or lease I thought I explained it to him. Well I called my friend and told him and out the blue he was start saying that he was sorry that all these years we never tried at getting together and that he didnt like the fact that he thought he lost me to someone else and that he is just scared because of the past and the things that has happen to him and he dont want to get hurt again mean while the other guy wants me to come over so that we can talk so I want out to where he works and the whole time I was there he did say anything to me but only when I walked throught the do which he gave me a hug and kiss. So later on I had my friend pick me up and we spent the night together and he called and txt me and asked where was I and can i come over which i didnt what should I do because I dont really know I like them both I have love for my friend and I have love for the guy which one should I choose or should I keep both and c where it leads I just dont know what to do can someone help me please. Reply to this Question
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reader, rambini  +, writes (20 April 2010):
 firstly, and most importantly, do not keep them both and see where it goes, because if you dont choose then you will lose them both.
if you went to where the guy works, and he ignored you and you spent the night with your friend, it sounds like you have already made the decision.
it isnt fair to cheat, and if you really loved this new guy then you wouldnt have wanted to sleep with your friend.
i think you should let the new guy go, and give your friend a shot. it sounds like he really likes you, and he clearly means a lot to you.
best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2010): Well, I don't know which one you should choose. Only you can figure that out but I will tell you to not keep seeing both of them. ITs unfair on both men, especially if they have feelings for you.
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