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writes:Hi,Ever since I caught my boyfriend watching porn while I was at home, I haven't been able to stop randomly looking at his web history. I've seen him look up pictures of real girls that we both know alongside porn. Is it normal for guys to masturbate to other girls? And also, I found a google search on his computer that was "wanting girls prettier than my girlfriend" and "wanting to date a model."It's just really confusing because he treats me really great in all other aspects and says he loves me and thinks I'm attractive.Should I break up with him??
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reader, athiestbutstillcares +, writes (8 June 2009):
I am a man who has masturbated. It's not about wanting someone prettier or more attractive it is a good way to release anger and frustration. These girls will do anything and it's more of a fantasy not a true desire away from your current relationship. Imagine Your greatest fantasy and talk to him about how you feel. I'm sure if you told him to stop he will. Trust me, not as bad as you think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): Why don't you talk to him openly about sex and tell him what you want. Why don't you ask him what he finds sexy about the girls he's looking at? At the end of the day its only sex after all- cumming is fun... blokes imaginations are maybe not so good as girls... I mean what do you think about when you masturbate? Your boyfriend or your favourite fantasy? Be honest with each other... that's the best policy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): I completely agree with starfairy. It sounds as if your boyfriend is using flattery to get what he wants from you, but all the while looking for something better to come along. Drop him like a hot potato, because you deserve better than that!!
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (3 June 2009):
 I didn't really think this was much of a problem, until I got to the bit:
And also, I found a google search on his computer that was "wanting girls prettier than my girlfriend" and "wanting to date a model."
My jaw actually dropped. I would be so, so gutted if I ever found anyone searching for something like that. I would seriously reconsider a future with this guy, to be totally honest if it was me, I'd have had my bags packed and been gone!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): Hmmm I'm not sure to be honest, that's a tricky one. If he was just looking at porn then that's no problem (although a lot of women find it offensive i suppose) but looking up the other things is a bit 'strange'. I guess just try and talk to him about it, and say that you saw that he was looking up about the 'girls prettier than your girlfriend' thingy. I don't know if it's worth dumping him over, as you say that he treats you well other than that. I don't know really, it all depends how you feel in your relationship. You should feel wanted and special and things and if he doesn't make you feel like that than maybe breaking up is the way forward. Sorry I couldn't be more help! Good luck :-) xx
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