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writes:Hi this married man and i have been having affair for nearly four years and we got caught once two years ago and now we got caught again by us calling each other. He told me today his wife wants a divorce, their house is for sale and he says he thinks she has got a investigator watching him. I asked him if he still loves me and misses me and he said yes he loves me and he does miss me but till the divorce we cant see each other. I love this man so much and cant stand not saying hello to him (he lives next door to me) so what do i do? I do believe him when he says he loves and misses me what am i to do. should i just let it be till he lets me know or what . someone please help . If he didn't love me he would not talk to me and he doesn't want any more trouble he has enough . The wife listens and watches his move when she isn't home . help me
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reader, tattoo +, writes (27 May 2010):
tattoo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone for the replies on what to do i am so glad you all replyied and your answeres were the same and yes i will take the initiate and end it with this man who is not for me. I will fined the man i want and need to be with forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2010): What does he love and miss? He loves the fact he has you right where he wants you - that is 'on the side'. He misses the excitement and false sense reality when he is at home. You are not his focus otherwise he would have left his miserable marriage long ago when he had the chance. Do you really want to be with someone that can treat two women like this???? THAT is what you should ask yourself. What kind of man is he? Then, consider how life would be if you were with a single guy who is available every night, you didn't have to sneak around, cause rifts etc and who also loved you. I speak from experience. They don't leave their wives and eventually you realise you don't want them anyway. The quicker you come to that conclusion the quicker you can actually get on with your life. You are living in a holding position - letting years of your life drift away for what? Please end it.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 May 2010):
You have walked into the classic trap. You've been having an affair with a married man, and now you've realized the mess you've been left with. Even if he does leave her, he will probably end up cheating on you and leaving you. Men and mistresses don't stay together for that long. You need to think carefully about what is best for you here. Because I can just see you back here shortly telling everyone that he has either moved away with this wife, or that he's dumped you. Take the initiate and end it with him, then just get away from him and meet a single guy who will actually commit. Because the truth is, if he really loved you, he would have left her a long time ago. And you don't want to end up the doormat.
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