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writes:This guy came up to me in a club and liked me and wanted my number and wanted to meet the next day. I couldn't I was on holidays for a week, the next Sunday he wanted to know if I was out the night before and called me to invite me over. I did, we got on and he was texting me on and off all week, wanted my work e-mail, been out on a date and gone over to his again since and last sunday saw him for the last. He is away this weekend in a wedding and works long hours but he hasn't texted all week, do you think he can't be bothered for some reason? I know this must sound stupid but we really hit it off and I can think of nothing that put him off me or me him. He has said things like, I'll have to take you back to see my house up north and I have already caught you. etc and this is only after seeing him 4 times. I turned up with a bottle of wine on sunday but he said could we keep it till next time and when I left he said I'll catch you in the week, but he hasn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2007): I think this is common, the guy got close to you, he needs some time alone, and he is busy, he has a wedding...I would not show up at his house any more...you are behaving as if you are already his girlfriend. Are you? If he hasn't asked, then you are not....so let him do the pursuing, don't text or call or e-mail, only return his calls, and keep this boundary for the first couple of months or until he tells you he wants to see you regularly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007): I think it is a little weird for him not to call or text all week. It sounds like he is not taking things too seriously. I mean the first few weeks is the most important time for a guy to try to make an impression on you. (And the girl too). And when they really like you they take advantage of this time to do so. The only impression he has left you with is that he does not keep his word (he said he would call in the week and never did) and that he is not so very interested that he would even text everyday or every other day to try to keep in touch within a reasonable time frame. So that should tell you alot about how he really feels.
Obviously he is not as interested as you think. This guy is not serious about you so my advice to you is forget him.
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reader, Gemini1506 +, writes (22 September 2007):
sounds like he's already in a relationship bbe
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reader, rcn  +, writes (22 September 2007):
 Give him past the weekend, since he's in a wedding (hopefully not his own.) Just wait until he gets back to see if he contact you. If not, leave an update on here, then maybe we can answer the question. There's not enough history to tell. I don't want to judge and make the wrong one for you.
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reader, rose the relationship solver +, writes (22 September 2007):
 He is probably to ignorant and not for you, he is making a fool out of you and if i were you i would go extremly careful to what happens if he contacts you.
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