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writes:ive been with my boyfriend for about 2year and i have always got on well with his mates but all of a sudden ive found myself fancying his best friend and thinking about him all the time he's always been a good mate and we get on really well we kissed eachother once when i was really drunk but know i dream about havin sex with him and want him so much cant get him out of my head. i still fancy my boyfriend and i luv him more than anythin but why do i feel like this? i dont know what to do do i try to stop thinking about him or do something about it? he's a few years older than my boyfriend and a bit more mature he's always the one i go to if i need to talk about stuff coz he's got much more patience and sometimes i feel like he cares more maybe just coz he gives me more attention i dont know but i dont know what to do in this sittuation i feel like im been a spoilt little girl wanting what i shouldnt have helpp!! as anyone else felt like this what do i do??
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reader, Natalie-x +, writes (8 July 2006):
 You need to let your boyfriend know you how you feel. Not about his mate, but about your relationship. If you feel the other guy is more mature and understandable, ask your boyfriend to be there for you when you have a problem, or just go to him with a problem instead of his mate and see how he handles it.
Going out with an ex's best mate is kind of sad, unless you want to get back at them for something, but your blokes done nothing wrong. Surely you dont want to punish him like that.
Think about spending more time with your boyfriend, and ask him to try new things during sex. Maybe this will help overcome your crush of his mate. Good luck!
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reader, Yos  +, writes (7 July 2006):
 You've answered your own question...
"... why do I feel like this?"
Because...
"He is more mature and always the one I go to if I need to talk... he has more patience and I feel like he cares more... he gives me more attention"
You have two solutions:
- Your current boyfriend needs to do a better job. Talk to him and tell him what you need. It sounds like you need to have more long mature conversations and for him to give you more attention. You'll find if you boyfriend does this you might lose your feelings for his friend a bit.
- Leave your current boyfriend and go out with his best mate. The problem with this is that it is considered very bad behaviour. You stand a good chance (since they are best mates) of not seeing either of them again. Big risk!!
To answer your last question, millions have felt the way you do. It's called 'being in a love triangle'. Some of our most famous romantic stories are about it:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_triangle
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