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female
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30-35,
*ottleoid
writes:I was in a long distance relationship that lasted a year and a half. She's in the US and I'm in the UK. She visited me and stayed here for a month and a half. Everything was fine until this April. We had an argument which made me react by blocking her on facebook and the other website where we met. The cause of the argument was that she's explaining to me that she wants to try and meet other people to 'see' if we're really meant to be. That hurt me a lot. I felt helpless as I am far away from her. Anyway, after the disagreement, we didn't get into contact until a week or so. During that time, if she really missed me, she could've miss called me over the phone but she didn't. I called her and found out that she's already someone else's girlfriend. My heart was shattered. I don't know why I kept asking her questions. Everything I asked just destroyed the remaining little pieces of my heart. She was even 'kind' enough to say that he doesn't kiss better than me. It was just a nightmare to hear... I broke down. I decided that it would be the last time I would contact her. I was an idiot though and still went and searched her online/went back to the website where we met to see how she was doing. I missed her. My head is saying it's not a good idea but something else was telling me to go on. Stupid me gave in and that's when I found out that she's already slept with the guy. As I was reading what she was saying, I thought I couldn't be any more upset but I felt physically ill and wanted to throw up. It broke my heart even more so. I am such an idiot. I cannot concentrate with my life (I'm graduating this year for my degree). There's always a picture in my head of the two of them having great sex especially when I'm revising for my exams. It's just a mess... I do not want these thoughts to be in my head but I don't know how to stop it. I do not want to love this girl anymore. After all she's done to me, I just want to move on but why can I not? I just want to focus with my life again and just forget about her. I know she does not deserve me but why do I still care? Could you please help me or give me some advice. I feel so lost and trapped...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2012): Hi, im a female and ive been in a long distance relationship and just got out of one so i know how you feeling. To me it sounds like your in love with this girl and you still feel like you need to talk to her, and to see how shes doing but honesly thats the worst thing to do when your trying to get over someone. Your should learn to go on with out your day without wondering what or how she's doing. She broke your heart, im sorry. Maybe you should try and talk to other women to see if any of them can take your mind off her? I know its hard but your not gunna get over someone you love just like that. it takes time. My best advice i could give you is just try to stay positive don't think about what shes doing and enjoy yourself, meet new women. good luck
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