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*oniqueEE
writes:Hi guys,I sort of recently started seeing someone who's made me realise that I have never been in a real relationship before.He treats me like a goddess and sometimes I can't believe I get to have someone like him.Only problem is, I've never been able to cum during sex. I can make myself orgasm in a matter of minutes by rubbing myself on a flat surface but I've never done it during sex. He's not worried about it at the moment but he is making it his mission to get me there one day.I don't understand why I can't and it's a little worrying. He makes me squirt during sex and the oral is out of this world.Why can't I get there at all?Thanks for you help!
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reader, MoniqueEE +, writes (16 January 2012):
MoniqueEE is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the responses.
I think its more of my issue, honestly I just need to relax and stop worrying. Maybe one day it will happen.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 January 2012):
 There's nothing wrong with you , you climax within minutes from other stimulations ! The only thing that's potentially a problem is that if he takes it as his mission to get you there during intercourse, and he fails , or it and takes too long , he'll feel frustrated and disappointed , you'll feel frustrated and disappointed , sex will become a source of stress rather than a realease of stress, .. and you'll want it less ( Hopefully not. Just saying ).
Both you guys relax. Maybe you haven't found yet the right position or rythm that would lead you to orgasm during penetration, so there's nothing wrong in experimenting with this and that, but- no pressure, because maybe you are simply one of those many many women who only climax in other ways. It's not a stigma and it's not a flaw, it's the way you are.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (11 January 2012):
 "He's not worried about it at the moment but he is making it his mission to get me there one day."
You should also make it your mission to make him cum through only rubbing his scrotum. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Around 75% of women never have an orgasm from penetration alone. It's just our anatomy. For women orgasms come from the clitoris. Even when women reach "vaginal" orgasms, it's almost always because the clitoris was stimulated in some way (either directly or indirectly).
You should count yourself incredibly lucky you can have great orgasms easily through pretty much all other means. You can have great orgasms from sex, oral sex that is. I don't know why intercourse/penetration is considered the correct way to have sex and receive pleasure since very few women can orgasm that way.
Try rubbing your clitoris during intercourse or having him do it. There's nothing wrong with you, it's just that having orgasms through intercourse is like asking a guy to only orgasm from having his scrotum rubbed. You need clitoral stimulation to have orgasms, simple as that.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 January 2012):
 some women do not orgasm during penetrative sex... I do not. never have never will... it's just an issue with our anatomy... if you can orgasm other ways teach him how to help you do that if it's that important to both of you.
personally for me, I love the cuddles and affection that come with sex and I love that my guy gets off but I truly accept that I will never get off during sex with him.... if only he would life would be so much easier....
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2012): I still can't believe the number of men and women that still don't know that most women cannot have an orgasm through intercourse alone. That the only thing that works for them is clitoral stimulation. Seriously OP, google it.
There is nothing wrong with you OP, you're just one of those girls. It's not the problem you think it is either.
The only thing that will work for you is to incorporate clit stim into intercourse. Either you doing it or him doing it.
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